(Ep 58) New at the Gym? Fit In, Avoid Injury, and Stick with Jiu-Jitsu

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Welcome back to Fighters Drinking Coffee. Today, we're going to,

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well, you guys have all noticed you've had people, new people at the gym,

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you know, New Year's have rolled around, you have new people coming in,

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doing the trials, trial classes or some, you know, week trials,

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month trial, whatever the program is at your gym.

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But, you know, you guys have noticed this, you've seen these people coming through

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and And, you know, the people that weren't going to try it out,

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they, you know, they kind of petered off after the trial period.

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And then some other people, they, you know, they stick around or maybe you haven't

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noticed, maybe you haven't.

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But, you know, you have these people that do want to come and do jujitsu with

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you and they've decided to stick around and give this thing a shot.

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Most of the time they've signed some sort of at least one year contract, right?

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They're at least going to stick with it for a year or at least pay to do it,

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pay for a year. But, you know, like, so how...

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How do we welcome these people into our gym? How do we get them in like intertwined

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in like the group, like the community, right? Like the community that is the gym.

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And what do we do to have them stick with it?

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Like how do we get them to go beyond that initial contract too, right?

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Like that's, that's really what it's about. It's not about getting, making that quick buck.

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It's how do we get these people to stick with jiu-jitsu because i mean here

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at fighters drinking coffee,

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that's what we want people to do we want people to

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stick with jiu-jitsu and on the flip side

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of that how do you the new person that just joined the gym how do you what do

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you need to do or what are you looking for what kind of stuff will help you

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like what kind of things will help you stick with jiu-jitsu we've kind of touched

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on that when we did like our white belt episode and um,

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you know, how, how to become a, how to become better as a white belt.

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But like, this is a little bit deeper than that.

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This gets kind of more to you're brand new.

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You're just starting jujitsu or you're just starting a new gym, whatever.

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And what are steps you can take things you can do to kind of take control and.

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Stick with jujitsu become a jujitsu person

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so that you can get your blue belt and slap bjj after

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your instagram handle like we talked about a few

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weeks ago right there you go um yeah i mean so we've all been new ones we all

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had we all have been through we have been through this scott and i um at one

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point in our life it was a while ago at this point but we've all we've done

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this those of you who are doing jiu-jitsu right now,

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you've been through at least some level of this, or you're starting jiu-jitsu

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for the first time, and you're about to go through this.

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So you kind of, by the way, Michael, you kind of went through it relatively

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recently, again, in a different sense, but I think it's the theme we're touching upon.

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It's like a community team kind of concept here.

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But you really, like relatively recently, it's been more than a year,

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of course, but you went into a new community.

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You went into battlefield by the way shout out to michael

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just got his brown belt oh thank you hey congrats um

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but jason talked about a little bit too he's like you know mike came in

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you know trained before but like you know joined our community there's

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like you you went through that i mean granted you were

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you knew what to expect and you knew you were going to do it and so like you're

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obviously miles ahead of like a white belt doing this but

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you had to go in and kind of like work your way

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in your new community probably earn a little respect from certain people and show

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them that you're a good dude who's going to work hard and like you want to be a part of

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that and kind of like jump on the um the rowboat

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and start rowing yeah um relatively recently right it was like a year and a

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half two years ago so yeah when you pop back into battlefield it'll be three

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years now has it been three yeah i i dude i didn't even realize until it's been

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three dude okay cool until like at promotions is when i remembered like oh shit it's been three years,

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because a few of us were talking about stuff afterwards like you know like built

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in the timeline was kind of getting built i'm like holy shit it's been three

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years um yeah no like definitely uh and so like it does transcend being brand new um.

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And there's a process to it i suppose and then whether

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you're white white belt's gonna have maybe some there's more

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of a um or whatever

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yeah we'll do we'll do white belt but like a brand new person to the sport has

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like multiple layers of acceptance of our commitment to wanting to do this long

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term versus you who's like no i've done this long term before i'm just doing

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it again well yes but then there's like the different filter is all i'm saying

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yeah so uh Before we, I'll, I'll lead off with like, as,

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as a person with experience and background in jujitsu already, um,

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cause yeah, it is a different experience.

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Um, especially like when you come in is, cause I was a purple belt when I showed

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up there, like there's a, there's a different welcoming, right?

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Like it wasn't, it wasn't like aggressive or anything, but like,

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there's definitely like when you come in brand new the way that people test

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you is going to be different than,

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when you come in is like a person who has you know a colored piece of cloth

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around their waist right like uh because there's almost like actually it's i

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don't mind it like i and this kind of comes up.

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I think we talked about this on the cross-training episode.

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There's going to be a level of target on you when you show up as an experienced person at another gym.

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Because they kind of want to... Well, they want to get to know you.

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They want to get to know you. There's like a vetting process.

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They want to see if you're legit.

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There's a level of...

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Testing out if you're good, you know, like, oh, is this going to be a good training partner?

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Is he just going to be the guy who shows up and like tries to tear us all apart?

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And, you know, like there's, there's different, there's just different things

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that are tested out with that, right?

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Versus when you're brand new.

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People are or at

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least the people at the gym that you're going to

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should be trying to

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welcome you in to try to get you to stay yeah which is

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kind of what we're going to talk about like that's one of the things we're going

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to talk about but like and that's not to say that that's not what happens when

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you come in is a it's just the experience of that is different because um there's

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a different level of expectations when you have some degree of rank or experience when you arrive there.

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So, uh, especially with like, I don't know, there's always that idea of like

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fake belts that people are worried about too.

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So, um, you know, you, you kind of have to show up.

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And you have to prove different things when you come in from a different gym to a new gym,

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i guess versus uh showing up and like we're gonna talk about proving that you're

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that you want to be a part of it which is just the way you do is differently

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right or is yeah i think it's valid i think anytime like maybe flipping around

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from like the people who are in that kind of like,

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already part of the community that you're walking into when you're experienced

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like you said there's a different set of questions that

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they they may have about this this guy coming in i think probably

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i'm sure you had this experience but like either way everyone's gonna be really cool

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but like oh great like oh your purple that's really awesome come on in man um

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you know high five knuckles and you're gonna

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do the first couple sparring rounds or whatever um they're they don't know what

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they're gonna get from you like you said to be honest with you i'm sure it depends

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on the environment i i most places most people of course again like i said it

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depends on the environment because there's different types of cultures and academies

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and stuff like that but most people won't,

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I don't think they really care if you're like,

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you got a purple but you're not that good, or you got a purple but you're really

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like a black, but I don't think people really mind that, I mean they're just,

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they don't know, right, so.

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There's like this membrane that you kind of have to like,

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push through um and and whatever white

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belt blue belt or white belt or some experience is probably the way to split

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these categories out but either way you're kind of like trying to crack your

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way into this community and be like hey well like i'd like to well in a lot

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of ways too like it goes both ways like you're kind of figuring out for yourself

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if you want to be a part of that community community also is like do we want

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this dude to be a part of this community,

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um it makes good business sense if you're like running an academy to try to cultivate a welcoming,

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inviting environment for a person of about you know basically any background.

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To be able to do that but you know once you know I said rowing the boats that's

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maybe that's a decent analogy once once you kind of crack your way in there

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and like if let's say you do have a good experience at this place and you're

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like yeah I want to continue training here you want to like figure out the rhythm

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of the culture and kind of get the wavelength and the vibration of the people you're around to say,

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all right, dude, yeah, I'll row the boat with you guys as a white belt,

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as a purple belt, whatever.

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But there's, there's that initial period of like kind of figuring that out.

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And so like, we can kind of wrap on yours.

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Yours is, like I said, straightforward, maybe because it's easier for us to

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understand because we've been at this for so long and we've both been in environments

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where like a blue, purple, brown, or black belt will show up and you'll be like,

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all right, like, yeah, the good news is that I think for anyone listening,

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like if you're the, And if you're the new guy.

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This is a 99% likely that everyone in the room actually wants things to be positive.

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Everyone's like, cool, man. This would be great to have another really good

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training partner. Like, let's see this dude. Let's see what he's all about.

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Personally, like I said, obviously, it's really nice when someone's got awesome

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jujitsu and they're coming in, if they're experienced, or even like awesome,

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you know, just like if they have really good potential, it's a bonus. It's not a requirement.

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It doesn't really make a big deal to me, but it's always kind of a nice thing.

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Like, dude, this guy's really good, man.

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And if he's also a cool guy and kind of gets the gym culture,

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wouldn't that be a huge blessing to have this person show up consistently and

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be part of our crew, right?

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I know that was kind of what Jason talked about with you in a really positive

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way when he said about you. It's like, yo, there's always like an unanswered.

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He's like, you don't know.

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I mean, his lens is obviously from like overseeing a large group of people.

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He's really overseeing a community.

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And he wants to think, he's thinking like 15 steps ahead. He's like,

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yo, like, I hope this guy is a really good fit for my academy.

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I mean, he's just gonna be more protective than even the dudes in the room who

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are more like peers, if you will.

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But it's the right question to ask, which is like, yeah, we want this dude to

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be a long-term good fit to help kind of lift up the entirety of the student body.

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And the cool thing about white belt, blue belt, purple, brown,

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black, whatever, like any person who shows up, they get to do that in some capacity.

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So like, all right, flip it around to the white belt. Like if you're the white belt person.

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I think the gym is probably gonna be trying a little bit harder than you are

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early on. It depends on the person. Like some of those people really,

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they might come in and be like, this is really cool.

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Oh man, I want them to accept me so badly.

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Like I wanna feel so, I wanna be like part of them.

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And, which is awesome. Cause like if that person, I feel like if a person has

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a good attitude and they're like, yo, I really wanna be a part of this community,

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the rest of it'll be easy.

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Cause what I was gonna say in that scenario, I think generally,

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if you're the white belt, like the rest of the room should, their job should

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be to like try to make you feel comfortable and they should invite you to wanna do that.

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Takes two to tango but because even a white belt can do that like a white belt

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can come in with you know with the like a fresh perspective and,

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maybe no background because like sometimes you'll get like something I mean,

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you didn't get this you were not this use case but like I mean I've experienced

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this like I'm sure Jason's experienced this just talked to Tim Tim's probably

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experienced this like you'll have sometimes you'll the problem that people don't

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want is that they'll get dudes from other backgrounds who come in,

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and they kind of bring hang-ups or weird cultural.

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I'll say negativity, sometimes it's just differences. They'll bring something

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that doesn't quite mesh with the community

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and it can have like a bad, it can bring kind of like a potentially negative

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impact to the community that someone in like a leadership position doesn't really want to see.

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So like you do keep in mind these sorts of things when you have like someone

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who's got mad experience from other communities, other cultures,

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like, hey, is this guy actually going to link with our people who's going to

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come in here and he's going to start asking questions about the coaches and

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be like, yeah, you know, we did differently over here, we did a little bit better.

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Because sometimes you get that stuff and you don't really want like weird negativity.

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It's not a bad thing to have a different, it's actually a really good thing

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to have a different perspective. It's just like, can this dude come in here

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respectfully and kind of like be part of our crew?

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Follow the order of operations, so to speak. But anyways, just tell me if I'm

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going off on a weird tangent here, man. But like with the white belts,

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it's sort of like, they're a blank slate, man.

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So like you bring them in, they have a really cool, fun, excited, hard work attitude.

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Like that's what you want. So I think the burden in a lot of cases for that

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audience, it's on the community to say, hey, White Belt, of perhaps varying

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degrees of athletic backgrounds,

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someone's sedentary, someone's like a prior athlete or whatever.

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Either one of them, like you want to do a good job of like bringing them in

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and making them feel like, yo, dude, there's a pathway forward for you to work

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hard with us, get better. And we want to help you with that.

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And we know that in the long term, if you're.

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Getting if you are getting better and you're having a good experience it'll

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make them better too so yeah does that make sense man i mean it seems so obvious

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but i think you know like i know how do people do that that's kind of okay guys

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we can talk about that for the next chunk of time but,

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um because it's a you know weird new environment for a lot of people and for

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white belts like for let's say a brand new white belt not a white belt has been around,

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who's already in the community uh these new guys maybe

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they don't maybe it's it's intimidating and they're like crap man like these

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people all seem really tough and really cool they're all buddies i'm not

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really buddies with me they're nice to me but like no yeah

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what do i do i think um i think

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that a way to look at is as the

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people that are already at the gym there's

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two different questions that you're asking so like

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you're if it's a brand new

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to jujitsu person the question

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that you're asking yourself about this

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person like the or that you're asking the existent

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members about this person is can we

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take this person and introduce them to jujitsu

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the way that we're all enjoying it and

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you know the way that the community like can we indoctrinate them yeah that

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is the word right like that's can we indoctrinate it's a fun one to say especially

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we're not beating the cult allegations but it is indoctrination that's a technical

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term for what's taking place yeah it sounds a little culty but whatever.

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We've covered jujutsu is a little culty you can cancel yeah but you can never

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leave you can't leave only we out is in a body bag or give us all your money

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all of it but you're asking,

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you're asking can this person be brought into like.

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Our group and can we

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like create them as a member and a representative of

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this group when you come in as someone with um

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with experience the question isn't can we turn them into a member of the group

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is can this person represent this group right right because like when a brand

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because you have to think of when that brand new person shows up and there's

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this guy who's shown up is a purple belt or a brown belt like they're also new to your community,

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but they're going to be seen as a senior member and representative of your community, right?

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So, like, the standard is slightly different.

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Obviously, it's the same standard, but you just have to know when you're looking

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at those things that, like, this person has to almost come in as a,

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like, example of our community, right?

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Like, I think that's, they have to fit in faster than the brand new person in

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terms of, like, how it appears.

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And I, not an, it doesn't have to be a good or a bad thing. I just mean that,

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like, that's, that's a different, you have to just evaluate it slightly differently.

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Because, you know, that, that's, that's going to be the guy that is going to

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be teaching other people. You're saying the expectation is a little different.

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Slightly. You know, it's not like a huge gap, but like that person is going

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to be potentially looked up to by newer people.

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So, you know, you just have to have some sort of, they have to fit in fast.

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You know, that's, you know, you're, you're testing something slightly different

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there because, because like you

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said, they, they do come, a person with experience does come with, um, um.

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And not saying you have to scrutinize them. You don't have to be extra on top

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of it and do background checks and shit.

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But you just have to recognize that this person, that person does come with

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some amount of prior knowledge. And with that comes baggage and whatever else. Yeah, it could.

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And we offline talked somewhat about this.

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And sometimes there's a reason that person's leaving the other place.

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And like, so, you know, you just, you have to be a little extra cause it's.

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There's, there's, there's sometimes other things and you know, that's all. Yeah.

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Um, well, I think I'm trying not to be like too like, we don't want to scare

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people, man, but I know what you mean. I know what you mean.

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No, like just, you learn to read people. I think you have to read them.

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And, and I would, I guess my response to that is, uh, does kind of depend on the person.

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Like, look, I, I've, I've known black belts who let's use a black belt as like

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an extreme example of this.

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Um, and I think the

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question you have to ask yourself is when this dude comes in you're like what don't forget like what

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does he want like what does this person he or she want when they come in here

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too because um i mean the i think

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it's a fair assumption and yes it's sort of like there is an example

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that this person puts forward but like does that dude want

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to be a coach maybe he doesn't maybe he's like yo

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man i coached already i'm black belt i just want to train man i happen

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to also be a black belt like people are gonna ask me questions happy

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to answer but like dude i'm not gonna come in here and step on everyone's toes i don't

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actually want to be a leader maybe that guy's like a leader in 50 other

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positions in his life and he's like dog like i'm good this is

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kind of a break i love you you never need help i'll help you but like

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it's your space right because like i think that could be an example of

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like yo this is a person who like you would you might expect this guy's gonna come

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in here like oh crap so you can try to take over maybe he doesn't give a

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shit about all that you know but yeah but that is the risk the risk is that

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like i i get what you're you're you're you're getting at here it's totally reasonable

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um yeah i guess what i'm saying is you're evaluating different aspects of that

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person than you might be like or additional there's additional things you're

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evaluating about that person for sure.

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And that person like all I'm saying is it's like I think you know.

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If we're going to approach it from this perspective, whoever's overseeing the squad.

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Just that person has either hopefully done this or needs to just learn how to

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read people and observe people and kind of observe their actions and observe

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how other people interact with that person. Like, you get good at this stuff.

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It happens automatically.

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But yeah, to your point, like, I think that stuff kind of works itself out,

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especially as long as the boss is just like, that dude's a problem.

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Get out of here. If you can do that, then this isn't an issue at all.

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And like, you know, that's, That happens.

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For most of you listening.

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That's above your pay grade probably. But since we got on the tangent, yeah, you're right.

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This is not an issue for... For you, the members of the community,

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it's less of a problem, right?

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I'm talking about community leaders kind of paying attention to people who have

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senior belts who come through.

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I'll also just, if I may, man, sometimes this has happened. This stuff has happened.

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If you have a strong enough community, let's say you had a community with like

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five or six black belts on the mat and like, hey, some purple belt comes in

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here and wants to puff his chest, who cares?

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You're a purple belt. No disrespect to purple belts, but it's also kind of like,

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look, I mean, like I said, you have to know the room.

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Like if you're an academy and then you're run by one brown belt,

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which happens, and there's nothing wrong with that.

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But like, maybe that guy's a little bit concerned if a purple belt comes in

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here because that guy who's in charge, it's his gym, he runs it,

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he's looking at that purple belt and he's like,

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crap, I was just a purple belt i'm only a brown belt i hope

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that no one is i'm not threatened by this person like you

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gotta like also be like confident enough in your position to

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be like this person doesn't threaten me that if they start getting crazy like

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it's just get rid of them like you're purple brown doesn't matter you're on

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the boss if you're the boss of that you're in the gym like get rid of them man

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that's because i'm making it sound like that's all i'm saying um like but you

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know if you come from an environment like man like even with the black belt

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like some black belt comes in and I'm like,

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what do you, you got like seven black belts, man.

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I'm happy you're here, but like, this is another, like I said,

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you'll learn about the person too.

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I think it's an assumption, and it's an assumption that's quite often wrong,

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but it's a fair assumption.

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But by the time a dude gets to, I'd say, purple belt, definitely brown and black

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belt, there's certain things you know that they've at least been exposed to.

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You don't know if they've learned that. Again, you don't know the individual

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until you know the individual until you read them.

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But for the sake of conversation, I think these things are firm assumptions

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slash foundations at most places. is just the entirety of Jiu-Jitsu does instill

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this or indoctrinate this into people, and you can tell me if you think I'm wrong.

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Buy purple belt for sure. I think people understand, because you don't get a

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purple belt unless you've been in the culture, you've been in the room,

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you've been training for several years.

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So you've been exposed to the martial arts world.

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And so you kind of learn how to behave. You kind of learn, what do people expect of purple belts?

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Hopefully you know. It's like, hey man, it's really cool you're a purple belt,

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but you're also just a purple belt.

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So that would then mean you would at least know how to like bow,

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show respect to people below you, people above you, shaking the hands of,

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you know, the guys who are senior to you, like being cool to people who, you know,

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maybe outrank you, but you might be better than them, right?

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Like, you can beat their ass on the mat, but, like, still, like, are you cool enough?

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At least, have you learned enough about the ego part of the sport to at least

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be like, this guy's a brown belt.

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He's been in this gym way longer than me. I may be, like, a four-strived purple,

00:22:45.510 --> 00:22:47.610
and I can submit him, but, like, whatever.

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He's still here, and, like, he's the guy about him. I show respect.

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It doesn't really, like, you should be able to understand your way around,

00:22:52.690 --> 00:22:55.010
like, these little subtleties, because that can happen.

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Like, and if you're a black belt, that's going to happen. You're going to have

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guys that you'll promote and you'll raise from white all the way up to black

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belt who will beat you one day.

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They should still show you respect. They should still have that honor and integrity

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of the martial art. Skills are one thing.

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The community, the environment is another. I think people fail on this all the time.

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But there are certain things that if you're kind of raised with the right family,

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Michael, and that's what Jason said about you.

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Jason was like, he said really cool things about it. He knew you were like,

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dude, these guys came up in a good environment. That's why you quickly got these

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things. These are respect things.

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And I think for the most part, jujitsu instills that in people.

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Yeah, there are lots of dum-dums out there who fucked this up,

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but most people, like I said, purple, definitely get into brown,

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definitely get into black belt.

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Like if black belt shows up a new academy with a room full of other black belts,

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most of the time that dude's gonna know. He's gonna be respectful.

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It's a cool thing too. If you're one of the black belts, do we got a new black belt?

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It's kind of nice to have an eighth black belt who's like nasty.

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I don't mind if he kicks my ass a little bit. That's actually badass. If he shows respect,

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And like a smart, self-aware, seasoned guy. Yeah.

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Buy purple, brown, black. They'll know how to do that, man. And I think that's

00:24:08.732 --> 00:24:11.112
what I'm getting at is like- I get what you get in that doggy.

00:24:12.032 --> 00:24:15.632
It's good to vocalize it because maybe they don't. Or maybe,

00:24:15.752 --> 00:24:20.072
hey, we started off this conversation about like the new white belts for 2026.

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You're coming in the new room and like the guys around them.

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Maybe we can just easily go to the purple and brown belts out there who are

00:24:25.452 --> 00:24:28.392
like, fuck, I'm uncomfortable in my new community. How do I fit in,

00:24:28.432 --> 00:24:29.652
dude? It could be for those guys too.

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It's for everyone. Jiu-Jitsu is for everyone. but but

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um but like yeah it's the the

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expectation that like you should

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be if you are one of these higher level belts

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going to a new gym like you should be able to walk in like it is there's a level

00:24:50.052 --> 00:24:55.052
of expectation you can come in and respect the existing community and like not

00:24:55.052 --> 00:24:59.772
you can't go into a new gym and immediately try to change the culture there

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right like that's not your job is the new member.

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You need to be able to come in, respect what's, what does exist.

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And then like, as you assimilate into this group, like, then you start getting

00:25:12.112 --> 00:25:14.252
like your vote and what that culture is, right?

00:25:14.532 --> 00:25:17.132
They'll kind of invite you to do that. Yeah, like that's, that's something that

00:25:17.132 --> 00:25:19.632
comes with time. But like, if you're coming in and.

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You know, the, the red flag there is like, if someone new is coming in from

00:25:24.864 --> 00:25:29.104
their other gym and like, they're just trying to change things about your gym right away.

00:25:29.304 --> 00:25:31.584
Yeah. It's super weird. Then that's kind of like, all right,

00:25:31.644 --> 00:25:36.584
like maybe this guy isn't necessarily a fit for this gym or like they come in

00:25:36.584 --> 00:25:41.404
and they're just trying to like thrash on your higher belts.

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And you know, there's, there's that like easing in process.

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So like, if someone can't do that, that's, it is

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a red flag like you said yeah it throws up a red flag um but

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obviously like don't be like a jaded

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don't be overly jaded and like scrutinize every

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single new person that comes into your gym and like because that's

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you know and obviously there's situations where people

00:26:05.084 --> 00:26:07.984
have been burned time and time again by these and like

00:26:07.984 --> 00:26:11.344
you become guarded and that's hard and

00:26:11.344 --> 00:26:14.824
like at some point you have to you do have to be protective you gotta set boundaries

00:26:14.824 --> 00:26:18.484
you do have to be protective of what you built so like there's there's a reason

00:26:18.484 --> 00:26:23.384
to do that but like you know there's that's a fine line of like all right how

00:26:23.384 --> 00:26:30.724
how welcoming or unwelcome how guarded should be like what's where is that like.

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That line for and like, you know, whatever, uh, that gets into a different topic.

00:26:35.787 --> 00:26:37.947
It does, but we're going to touch on another time.

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If I just to kind of like, just add a little seasoning to that dude.

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I think number one, I think most gyms do this.

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I think most gyms do it pretty well, especially if like the gym's been around

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for a while, uh, or if the coaches have coached for a while,

00:26:50.127 --> 00:26:52.827
like they can do this stuff pretty easily. They can manage it well.

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And, um, and for the, like the newer student listeners who are hearing this,

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like you, you want these guys doing that. He wants the dudes who are stewards

00:27:02.407 --> 00:27:05.447
of the community to be able to do this stuff because they're doing it for you.

00:27:05.627 --> 00:27:07.267
They're doing it for the entirety of the community.

00:27:07.747 --> 00:27:11.007
They just don't want someone coming in to their house and then trying to big

00:27:11.007 --> 00:27:13.967
dog and be like, nah, it's my show now, which is silly.

00:27:14.187 --> 00:27:17.127
It's super immature if someone does that in general, which is crazy.

00:27:17.747 --> 00:27:23.147
But sometimes people do it. It's silly, but it works itself out.

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It's not that they're... and if it's being done, like when this is being done

00:27:30.467 --> 00:27:36.967
the right way, the, whoever is in charge, they're not doing it to protect themselves or their ego.

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They're doing it to, they, the way that it's being done is to protect the community

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and culture that all of the existing members.

00:27:44.487 --> 00:27:46.427
That's right. Are enjoying. That's right. And, you know,

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That one guy isn't worth the, you know, however many people it is.

00:27:52.143 --> 00:27:53.943
I jokingly call it like soup.

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Like you're making a stew. You got a whole thing. And every little ingredient

00:27:56.703 --> 00:27:58.323
you put in the stew should like make the stew better.

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And if you put a fucking crazy ingredient, you accidentally drop a bar of soap

00:28:01.523 --> 00:28:04.363
in your stew, now the whole stew is fucked.

00:28:04.843 --> 00:28:07.603
Tastes like soap. Yeah, you got to throw it all away. You can throw it all away.

00:28:07.743 --> 00:28:09.183
Yeah, right. Right, right, right.

00:28:09.663 --> 00:28:12.383
Yeah, dude, I think, yeah. No, you're right. I mean, it's meant to just,

00:28:12.483 --> 00:28:14.663
it's for the big picture. It's for the entirety of the community.

00:28:14.823 --> 00:28:18.303
The community is for everyone. communities should benefit any

00:28:18.303 --> 00:28:21.043
new person so like that person comes in here it's like this stuff

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is kind of these communities are carefully developed right they

00:28:23.683 --> 00:28:27.003
don't just happen by accident um it's it's

00:28:27.003 --> 00:28:30.143
why what we're talking about is it's pretty important it's very important it's

00:28:30.143 --> 00:28:33.183
really important to like usually a very small group of one person for

00:28:33.183 --> 00:28:35.963
sure um and so well and

00:28:35.963 --> 00:28:38.863
kind of i like your do analogy because like it's

00:28:38.863 --> 00:28:41.743
good i've thought to get out to get out that bar of soap you're going

00:28:41.743 --> 00:28:44.443
to take a few potatoes you might accidentally get a cut you know

00:28:44.443 --> 00:28:47.103
like you're fishing out all kinds of stuff trying to get that soap out of the

00:28:47.103 --> 00:28:49.863
stew so like which is you know

00:28:49.863 --> 00:28:52.983
a pretty good analogy for what can happen

00:28:52.983 --> 00:28:56.023
in that scenario but it's it's not a constant

00:28:56.023 --> 00:28:58.923
thing so like again don't be

00:28:58.923 --> 00:29:01.943
overly jaded about it but it is you know but it

00:29:01.943 --> 00:29:04.763
does kind of lead into the let's be practical about

00:29:04.763 --> 00:29:07.763
it yeah let's be practical for people and it leads into like the

00:29:07.763 --> 00:29:10.583
what we initially frame with like the new the

00:29:10.583 --> 00:29:13.643
brand new people coming in because you as the

00:29:13.643 --> 00:29:16.523
the people of the of your

00:29:16.523 --> 00:29:19.463
gym's community and culture like you are the stewards

00:29:19.463 --> 00:29:26.783
of this culture in this community it is essentially up to you to again indoctrinate

00:29:26.783 --> 00:29:33.963
them but like you know you're to kind of like show and be like a example of

00:29:33.963 --> 00:29:38.623
like you know and you're trying to show them the pillars and like.

00:29:39.663 --> 00:29:43.123
Whatever else, like all of the things that you enjoy about the gym,

00:29:43.283 --> 00:29:45.043
that's what you're trying to instill in this person.

00:29:45.043 --> 00:29:48.403
And like, that's what you're selling, right? You're not necessarily.

00:29:49.662 --> 00:29:53.162
They've already decided they want to do jujitsu. They've walked in the door.

00:29:53.342 --> 00:29:56.082
Like, they're interested. You're not selling them jujitsu. Well,

00:29:56.082 --> 00:29:57.342
you kind of are. You are, but.

00:29:58.422 --> 00:30:01.702
You're continuing to sell jujitsu. You're right. They showed up with interest

00:30:01.702 --> 00:30:03.202
in it. And they're like, maybe I'll give this a try.

00:30:03.482 --> 00:30:05.362
There's probably a few of them are like, no, I'm definitely doing it.

00:30:05.402 --> 00:30:08.682
I've been wanting to do it for 10 years. This is the year I'm not going back, right?

00:30:08.842 --> 00:30:13.322
But most people are, like, figuring out if they want to continue with jujitsu,

00:30:13.402 --> 00:30:15.062
right? You're right. They spent money.

00:30:15.562 --> 00:30:17.422
They're like, yo, we're going to at least give this a go.

00:30:18.422 --> 00:30:20.302
Yeah, because this person signed up in this. I'm just adding feel to what you're

00:30:20.302 --> 00:30:24.002
talking about. Because these people have signed up. There's a transaction.

00:30:24.162 --> 00:30:26.322
There's a commitment degree. But how much commitment?

00:30:26.482 --> 00:30:28.402
And that's kind of the spirit of what we're discussing here,

00:30:28.442 --> 00:30:31.342
too, is like, let's get these guys excited about sticking around.

00:30:32.102 --> 00:30:35.902
Coach will take care of the selling them on jiu-jitsu part. And you're going

00:30:35.902 --> 00:30:39.082
to hit them with those secret Jedi magic moves.

00:30:39.562 --> 00:30:42.422
I'm loving the Star Wars stuff. Yeah, I can tell. But we're going to hit them

00:30:42.422 --> 00:30:45.902
with the, you'll show them those magic little jiu-jitsu moves at work.

00:30:45.902 --> 00:30:49.842
He's on the droids you're looking for this is not the arm bar yeah that's right

00:30:49.842 --> 00:30:53.162
but you know like you'll you'll hit them with those little things like oh shit

00:30:53.162 --> 00:30:59.922
jujitsu's crazy and then you know they that keeps them on the hook but at the end of the day like,

00:31:00.744 --> 00:31:07.204
And Tim kind of talked about this, like, you want that in a perfect world every, you know,

00:31:07.484 --> 00:31:10.984
there's groups of these people and, like, at the gym that, like,

00:31:11.104 --> 00:31:15.404
you talk to and you want to hang out with because, like, you have a few different

00:31:15.404 --> 00:31:19.264
things in common or you have the shared struggle and, you know, like.

00:31:19.704 --> 00:31:24.484
There's, you're all showing up and you're putting in the work every day or whatever, but, like,

00:31:24.584 --> 00:31:27.324
if someone's just showing up, you know, you're showing

00:31:27.324 --> 00:31:30.304
up going through the motions going home or you're all

00:31:30.304 --> 00:31:33.044
doing that like then that's the culture that gets developed and if

00:31:33.044 --> 00:31:35.804
that's what you want cool whatever that's fine but you know

00:31:35.804 --> 00:31:38.804
like you have you're in control of this when these new people show up

00:31:38.804 --> 00:31:42.264
right like you have the opportunity to invite this

00:31:42.264 --> 00:31:49.684
person into the community and so you know you want to try to get them involved

00:31:49.684 --> 00:31:54.844
it doesn't have to be you know you don't have to hang out every week or whatever

00:31:54.844 --> 00:31:59.164
but like if you have a group chat, get that person in the group chat, right?

00:31:59.284 --> 00:32:03.624
Like it can be as simple as that. Like if you and everyone else that's in that

00:32:03.624 --> 00:32:08.724
class text every day to each other in a group chat, like don't be clicky,

00:32:08.924 --> 00:32:10.724
try to include people in that, right?

00:32:10.784 --> 00:32:15.684
Like, or whatever, right? If people want to be, if people want to be involved, involve them.

00:32:15.944 --> 00:32:18.544
Right. And, you know, so, um, you know,

00:32:18.544 --> 00:32:21.464
there's there's aspects of this that

00:32:21.464 --> 00:32:24.484
like all right let's invite them

00:32:24.484 --> 00:32:29.964
in and um plenty of gyms are great at this some gyms aren't as good at it right

00:32:29.964 --> 00:32:34.784
like some gyms just expect the jiu-jitsu to sell itself I'm sure I don't know

00:32:34.784 --> 00:32:38.144
this isn't like calling out anybody because I don't really yeah some people

00:32:38.144 --> 00:32:42.944
do that I don't know as I know the people that are like in our community you know like,

00:32:43.584 --> 00:32:45.944
the people that we talk to are pretty cool but.

00:32:47.144 --> 00:32:49.884
You know there's people that are like that that like,

00:32:50.770 --> 00:32:54.370
there's that expectation to like, oh, we'll just do jujitsu.

00:32:54.830 --> 00:32:59.710
And then this person's either gonna do it or not do it.

00:32:59.890 --> 00:33:06.050
And like, yeah, but there's so many other levels to it that you can have.

00:33:06.170 --> 00:33:07.970
Like, and you don't have to like everybody.

00:33:08.190 --> 00:33:12.250
That's fine. Right. You don't have to like every single person that comes through

00:33:12.250 --> 00:33:16.690
the door, but, um, yeah, I don't know. There's yet.

00:33:16.970 --> 00:33:21.910
Well, dude, I think there was like the, the reality, um, It's not true for every

00:33:21.910 --> 00:33:25.070
gym, but it's, I think, true for a decent amount of them, which is that,

00:33:25.110 --> 00:33:27.790
like, these guys will show up because they're interested in jiu-jitsu,

00:33:28.050 --> 00:33:31.850
but they'll stick around long-term when they've got a crew.

00:33:32.050 --> 00:33:33.770
They've got, like, buddies, and, like, they feel like they're,

00:33:33.790 --> 00:33:38.490
like, getting a really positive lifestyle change in a new community of like-minded

00:33:38.490 --> 00:33:40.230
people they get to be around.

00:33:40.450 --> 00:33:43.990
And that's really what people like to stick around for. They really like that.

00:33:44.970 --> 00:33:48.070
I mean, you know, this comes from good leadership, comes from good people at

00:33:48.070 --> 00:33:53.670
the top who cultivate a community where people become friends.

00:33:53.810 --> 00:33:55.010
I mean, it's really cool to see.

00:33:56.590 --> 00:34:00.090
I've seen people get real clicky.

00:34:00.350 --> 00:34:05.030
I've seen there being in groups and out groups in gyms and people who put in

00:34:05.030 --> 00:34:09.290
an inner circle with certain folks and then other people kind of feel left out

00:34:09.290 --> 00:34:11.210
and they literally see it and they're uncomfortable.

00:34:11.410 --> 00:34:13.330
I mean, you've just seen all these things. It's just kind of like groups of

00:34:13.330 --> 00:34:15.230
people. You can put groups of people together, they do this stuff.

00:34:17.110 --> 00:34:22.230
But bottom line, the community aspect is super important wherever you go,

00:34:22.410 --> 00:34:25.370
and I was actually thinking about flipping it around now, because we talked

00:34:25.370 --> 00:34:28.890
about the people who are kind of already in the group, welcoming the new person.

00:34:29.010 --> 00:34:31.230
Let's put ourselves in the shoes of the new person for a second here.

00:34:31.810 --> 00:34:34.230
You got me thinking about it a little bit when we were talking a little more

00:34:34.230 --> 00:34:36.830
from the perspective of the rank guys who are showing up.

00:34:39.373 --> 00:34:44.593
I was thinking about it then, I was kind of formulating my concept as we were discussing this.

00:34:45.273 --> 00:34:48.233
I think whether you're a white belt or you're a brown belt or whatever,

00:34:48.453 --> 00:34:51.053
when you go into a new environment, I think the very first thing you should

00:34:51.053 --> 00:34:55.093
do is it seems obvious, but maybe because I've traveled a lot,

00:34:55.233 --> 00:34:56.793
I've navigated through that.

00:34:57.133 --> 00:35:00.793
Going into starting communities, starting groups is something I've done lots of times.

00:35:00.993 --> 00:35:04.393
I've gone to other crews and I've traveled to Jiu-Jitsu. I've traveled to places

00:35:04.393 --> 00:35:07.333
of Jiu-Jitsu for long periods of time, for two to five weeks.

00:35:07.733 --> 00:35:11.573
So i've kind of like been on both sides of this tons of times man i think the

00:35:11.573 --> 00:35:15.453
first thing that just seems it seems logical to me what i would recommend any

00:35:15.453 --> 00:35:17.753
brand new guy whatever your rank is,

00:35:18.233 --> 00:35:21.753
um kind of go in and like get a read of the room man like i mean for me i've

00:35:21.753 --> 00:35:25.353
been this is my ninth year black belt i've been a black belt longer than most

00:35:25.353 --> 00:35:29.753
people have trained um so i've done this a lot of times as a black belt and

00:35:29.753 --> 00:35:31.973
everything we talked about earlier where it's like you bet you people are looking

00:35:31.973 --> 00:35:36.653
at you and so like just i think the first thing i try to do now as a black and

00:35:36.653 --> 00:35:38.073
I think you should just do this with a white belt too.

00:35:38.213 --> 00:35:40.513
Just kind of go in there and be nice to everyone.

00:35:41.793 --> 00:35:44.293
We're going to do jiu-jitsu in a minute. We're all going to see each other's

00:35:44.293 --> 00:35:45.533
jiu-jitsu. It's not a big deal.

00:35:46.393 --> 00:35:51.353
I may be really good in this room. I may not be that good in the other room. No one really cares.

00:35:52.473 --> 00:35:55.273
Because at the end of the day, I'm going in so I can get better at my jiu-jitsu

00:35:55.273 --> 00:35:56.853
regardless. So it's like an opportunity.

00:35:57.093 --> 00:36:03.013
And if I walk into a place where I anticipate going more than one time,

00:36:03.033 --> 00:36:04.253
I'll think about this even more.

00:36:04.393 --> 00:36:07.193
Even if I'm just dropping into a place once, I still behave this way.

00:36:07.673 --> 00:36:09.473
The point I'm trying to get across here is like, when you go in first,

00:36:09.573 --> 00:36:10.573
just kind of go in and read the room.

00:36:10.713 --> 00:36:13.673
Be like cool with you. Be like, you're about to go into a space.

00:36:13.773 --> 00:36:16.273
It's different when I'm a black belt. I'm expecting to roll wherever I go.

00:36:16.333 --> 00:36:18.813
If you're a brand new white belt, you might not roll for a little bit.

00:36:18.873 --> 00:36:20.553
You might not roll hard, spar hard.

00:36:20.833 --> 00:36:22.853
So your body will be a little more protected. But as a black belt,

00:36:22.933 --> 00:36:25.713
you're like, I'm going in here and like, in a second, someone's going to be

00:36:25.713 --> 00:36:26.793
maybe holding onto my ankle.

00:36:27.599 --> 00:36:31.519
And twisting it. And so, I mean, I can protect myself pretty damn well.

00:36:31.699 --> 00:36:35.559
But like, nonetheless, there's like this degree of like trust that we're kind

00:36:35.559 --> 00:36:38.999
of tossing out there to be like, yo, I hope you guys are cool and I'm going to be cool too.

00:36:39.119 --> 00:36:42.379
So what I'm saying, the call to action with this is like, go in and like first,

00:36:42.459 --> 00:36:43.739
number one, just be really cool and respectful.

00:36:43.979 --> 00:36:47.079
And then like, you got to learn to read the room. You got to learn to like kind

00:36:47.079 --> 00:36:49.599
of like download the culture as you go into a place. And this is like,

00:36:49.659 --> 00:36:51.239
if you're a white belt, you should be doing this too.

00:36:52.379 --> 00:36:55.139
I have a trained eye for this because I've been doing this for so long.

00:36:55.239 --> 00:36:58.399
I've traveled quite a bit. Like I said, I've done this many, many, many times.

00:36:58.539 --> 00:37:02.419
So I can vet that pretty well. And I'm also in a place where if I go into a

00:37:02.419 --> 00:37:05.259
place and I don't like it, I'll walk out. I can do that. I'm not worried about

00:37:05.259 --> 00:37:06.319
it. I don't really care what they're going to think.

00:37:07.179 --> 00:37:09.879
That hasn't happened to me. But if I've gone to a place and I'm like,

00:37:09.939 --> 00:37:12.839
this is fucked up, I'm out, man. I have no problem doing that.

00:37:13.439 --> 00:37:19.119
That's an extreme thing. But my way of saying, I'm capable of filtering and

00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:23.879
discerning these things as a black belt who's traveled a lot and gone to lots

00:37:23.879 --> 00:37:27.059
of different places. and everywhere I've gone to, I haven't had a lot of bad

00:37:27.059 --> 00:37:28.019
experiences, quite frankly.

00:37:28.699 --> 00:37:33.799
I have to really think hard about bad times and that's gone bad.

00:37:33.919 --> 00:37:35.199
I can't think of anything.

00:37:35.439 --> 00:37:38.599
But going in there, it's like, go in, read the room, download the room.

00:37:38.639 --> 00:37:40.959
And if you're a white belt, the cool thing is that's kind of all you need to

00:37:40.959 --> 00:37:43.899
do because you don't really know what to do. Just show up and be nice.

00:37:45.399 --> 00:37:49.979
There's a phase two to this, but. I think that reading the room point,

00:37:51.839 --> 00:37:56.339
that's super crucial because, right, like, especially if you're just dropping

00:37:56.339 --> 00:38:01.559
in, right, you're the outside aggressor, right? Like, you don't want to be that.

00:38:01.739 --> 00:38:05.499
So, like, that reading the room and, like, I don't know if you do this,

00:38:05.579 --> 00:38:09.279
but when I dropped in, that first role is, like.

00:38:09.972 --> 00:38:14.212
We're going to feel out what the deal and like what the pace is here.

00:38:14.352 --> 00:38:17.892
So like, cause when I, when I travel for stuff, like if we go to like a wedding

00:38:17.892 --> 00:38:23.732
or whatever, if I'm not in the wedding, the, if the schedule allows,

00:38:23.752 --> 00:38:26.172
like I'll find a gym to drop into.

00:38:26.372 --> 00:38:31.272
Cause like normally, especially if you have like a spouse or a partner or whatever,

00:38:31.512 --> 00:38:35.592
that's, that's in the wedding, like you've got a whole day to kill,

00:38:35.832 --> 00:38:38.212
right? Like you got to find something to do.

00:38:38.732 --> 00:38:44.052
So, um, You know, you like go in and like, I'm at that first,

00:38:44.192 --> 00:38:48.352
that first role, like you're just, you're going to feel what the energy is,

00:38:48.452 --> 00:38:52.892
right? Like your, your job isn't to go in and prove right away. How good you are.

00:38:52.972 --> 00:38:56.772
And like, I mean, that goes, that goes for the brand new person too.

00:38:57.212 --> 00:39:01.772
Like you, you shouldn't be going into that. If you're brand new and you're doing that, you're wild.

00:39:01.972 --> 00:39:05.352
Do not go into that first role. But I agree with you. Like, the fact that that,

00:39:05.472 --> 00:39:07.992
if that's on someone's mind is they're brand new. Like, you're a wild man.

00:39:08.132 --> 00:39:12.032
And you're listening to this, you are actually crazy. Like, that happens, though. It does happen.

00:39:12.532 --> 00:39:18.352
How many, it's not the norm. How many times have in, have, like,

00:39:18.512 --> 00:39:21.952
has there been that brand new white belt that you have to, like,

00:39:22.252 --> 00:39:23.472
have someone matting for us?

00:39:23.812 --> 00:39:27.792
It happens. Right? Like, it happens. It happens. It's one of those things where

00:39:27.792 --> 00:39:31.472
it isn't frequent, but it's like, it's just so noticeable when it happens that you'll remember it.

00:39:31.592 --> 00:39:34.072
So it seems like it stands out. Yeah.

00:39:34.312 --> 00:39:37.232
Like there's that guy that's like, dude, that guy's going like 150%.

00:39:37.772 --> 00:39:41.432
Like this is crazy. Someone needs to take care of it. Someone needs to settle that down.

00:39:42.172 --> 00:39:48.392
So, you know, like that, that read the room thing, like that's especially as.

00:39:49.249 --> 00:39:52.209
Especially if you have experience, which you should already know how to do that.

00:39:52.369 --> 00:39:56.729
But, you know, like that is crucial because like otherwise you'll get mad,

00:39:56.869 --> 00:40:01.149
especially if you have some rank to you, you will get mad enforced.

00:40:02.929 --> 00:40:06.389
They'll, the champion of the room will come after you.

00:40:06.989 --> 00:40:11.069
But, you know, like you also do have to understand like as the outside person

00:40:11.069 --> 00:40:14.789
that like, there is also that chance that,

00:40:15.349 --> 00:40:20.129
and the reason that you have to feel it out is there's that chance they're coming

00:40:20.129 --> 00:40:23.869
for you right like so like you kind of have to know because you don't want to

00:40:23.869 --> 00:40:27.129
be the one that starts that right because you're outnumbered here um,

00:40:27.829 --> 00:40:31.329
but you know that it's that is very

00:40:31.329 --> 00:40:34.049
important because like in i mean i i go into when i drop

00:40:34.049 --> 00:40:37.269
into places i kind of expect like people to go hard a

00:40:37.269 --> 00:40:40.129
little bit but like i'm gonna feel you go hard before i also go

00:40:40.129 --> 00:40:42.989
hard right i'm not gonna give competition energy if

00:40:42.989 --> 00:40:46.289
you're not giving me competition energy um so you

00:40:46.289 --> 00:40:49.429
know like that's that's part of it and like i don't know i kind of expect to

00:40:49.429 --> 00:40:54.129
get a little beat up if i'm dropping in somewhere but that's not the point uh

00:40:54.129 --> 00:41:00.709
but yeah i mean like that's that give and get in the giving and getting of energy

00:41:00.709 --> 00:41:05.769
like and making sure that you're doing what is important for that room um.

00:41:06.948 --> 00:41:10.468
You know, like you don't get to go into that person's gym and,

00:41:10.668 --> 00:41:15.768
oh, well, like I don't do shrimps up and down the mat, so I'm not going to do shrimps.

00:41:15.868 --> 00:41:18.988
I'm not going to do your, you guys shrimp up and down that, but I'm not going

00:41:18.988 --> 00:41:20.948
to do it because I don't do that at my gym.

00:41:21.228 --> 00:41:26.288
You don't get to make that choice, right? Like you're going to do whatever the instructor.

00:41:26.648 --> 00:41:29.648
Yeah. Whatever is being said in front of you, that's, that is your job.

00:41:29.728 --> 00:41:30.928
You're showing up. You're going to be respectful.

00:41:31.368 --> 00:41:34.828
It's such a reasonable thing to say, but I agree with you, man. Yeah.

00:41:35.148 --> 00:41:38.948
Like you surprised people don't do that sometimes it's true yeah it's sometimes

00:41:38.948 --> 00:41:41.608
it's you'd be surprised about how it's like

00:41:41.608 --> 00:41:46.088
being a guest in someone's house man it's like joe just like yeah i

00:41:46.088 --> 00:41:48.928
think if they take their shoes off in that house you take your shoes

00:41:48.928 --> 00:41:51.688
off that's right bro you don't get you don't get to wear your shoes in that

00:41:51.688 --> 00:41:54.748
house yeah it's like being a guest in someone's house man like behave

00:41:54.748 --> 00:41:57.408
the way they're asking you to behave and you said it

00:41:57.408 --> 00:42:00.368
well when it comes to like visiting other gyms and like yeah you gotta like you

00:42:00.368 --> 00:42:03.068
gotta you gotta see that that's gonna look like you gotta see that energy and then

00:42:03.068 --> 00:42:06.288
kind of like you know like an experienced

00:42:06.288 --> 00:42:08.848
training room like if you're the guy visiting like they'll kind of indicate to you

00:42:08.848 --> 00:42:11.648
like no we can pick this up a little bit like they'll it can be a

00:42:11.648 --> 00:42:14.308
really good experience it usually is usually the stuff works out

00:42:14.308 --> 00:42:18.248
just totally normally naturally in a really good way we're like being super

00:42:18.248 --> 00:42:21.528
detail oriented about it but like these things usually organically take place

00:42:21.528 --> 00:42:25.768
everything's really smooth oh it will always work itself it always works itself

00:42:25.768 --> 00:42:29.488
out one way or another i mean i guess last thing like okay one more thing on

00:42:29.488 --> 00:42:32.088
the white belt like if you're the white belt coming like to your point mike it's It's like,

00:42:32.168 --> 00:42:35.948
dude, just go in and do what the instructor tells you in your white belt. Do that.

00:42:37.068 --> 00:42:39.408
If you're new, there'll be some people around who might even be kind of like

00:42:39.408 --> 00:42:40.228
helping you out a little bit too.

00:42:40.368 --> 00:42:43.008
If you're feeling super fish out of water, which is okay because you're a white

00:42:43.008 --> 00:42:45.828
belt, like they might be like, oh man, like, hey, when he says hip escape,

00:42:45.968 --> 00:42:49.348
just push your butt like that. Like they might give you some pointers. Listen to them, man.

00:42:49.588 --> 00:42:52.308
Just listen to everyone and kind of like just try to feel comfortable.

00:42:52.528 --> 00:42:53.648
Like they want you to be there.

00:42:54.068 --> 00:42:58.108
If for whatever reason you really think they don't want you to be there, that might be a problem.

00:42:58.888 --> 00:43:03.468
You ignore that instinct but like that shouldn't be happening um,

00:43:04.463 --> 00:43:09.343
And as time goes on, you do this enough times, you'll crack through that membrane.

00:43:09.403 --> 00:43:11.163
And it might happen really quick, too, where people are like,

00:43:11.223 --> 00:43:12.243
yo, dude, good to see you again.

00:43:12.343 --> 00:43:14.103
Billy, right? It's your third week here, man. That's awesome,

00:43:14.163 --> 00:43:15.663
man. How are you liking it? That's really good, dude.

00:43:16.103 --> 00:43:20.083
Even going to these two classes, you should check out this other class that me and Mike go to.

00:43:20.203 --> 00:43:23.903
Or when me and Mike wear white belts, after about three or four weeks,

00:43:23.963 --> 00:43:26.843
we actually thought it makes perfect sense to kind of transition into that one.

00:43:26.943 --> 00:43:28.883
You should do that. There'll be more people. You get a little more rolling,

00:43:29.043 --> 00:43:30.023
dude. You're about ready for that.

00:43:30.223 --> 00:43:33.383
You should be seeing some encouragement, hopefully, from your peers.

00:43:33.383 --> 00:43:36.503
If you are up here who's a little bit further down the road than the white belt

00:43:36.503 --> 00:43:40.223
throw some breadcrumbs at him help him out a little bit.

00:43:41.283 --> 00:43:46.743
And at a certain point the invitation to be part of the crew will happen naturally,

00:43:47.223 --> 00:43:51.803
if you want that some people just want to keep themselves going and train quiet

00:43:51.803 --> 00:43:54.623
and like they might not make a gym buddy but there might be a good training

00:43:54.623 --> 00:43:58.523
partner he's there on the mat for a really long time there's dudes out there like that,

00:43:59.143 --> 00:44:03.203
every gym needs that guy anyways as long as they're showing up and training

00:44:03.203 --> 00:44:04.343
and it's good. That's it.

00:44:04.703 --> 00:44:07.603
Right? Like, you're a paying member. You just show up.

00:44:07.703 --> 00:44:12.043
You know your rights. You don't have to do anything extra you don't want to.

00:44:12.063 --> 00:44:14.083
You pay attention and you're respectful.

00:44:14.363 --> 00:44:17.083
Dude, as far as I'm concerned, that's a good community member right there.

00:44:17.183 --> 00:44:20.323
You're being great. Yeah, you are. Just don't do anything wild. But, um.

00:44:21.774 --> 00:44:25.894
Not beating the allegations on, not beating the cult allegations.

00:44:25.894 --> 00:44:28.454
Or like, if you're brand new, you're going to listen to everybody.

00:44:29.194 --> 00:44:32.994
Well, I'm saying, show up to the class for 50, it's a 60 minute class.

00:44:33.154 --> 00:44:35.454
Like, listen to the coach, man. Like, I mean, you don't know anything,

00:44:35.594 --> 00:44:37.194
you're right about. Like, so whatever this dude's telling you,

00:44:37.294 --> 00:44:40.074
it's more than you know. So like, you should listen.

00:44:41.174 --> 00:44:44.374
That's all I'm saying. Listen to the coach. And the coach is coaching you for

00:44:44.374 --> 00:44:47.414
a reason. You have to listen to the coach when the class ends and you leave.

00:44:47.994 --> 00:44:50.294
You don't have to, you're not stuck in the cult. When class is over,

00:44:50.294 --> 00:44:51.834
you do whatever you want.

00:44:52.174 --> 00:44:55.194
If they ask for a tithe, that is weird. Yeah, you do whatever you want.

00:44:55.194 --> 00:44:57.534
You don't need to pay like 10% of your income.

00:44:58.194 --> 00:45:01.934
It could be 10%. Your monthly dues might be 10% depending on who you are.

00:45:02.094 --> 00:45:04.234
True, true, true. Depending on what you're making. Yeah.

00:45:07.754 --> 00:45:13.834
But another thing for the brand new guys walking in is don't get discouraged.

00:45:16.014 --> 00:45:21.114
Because there's going to, and everyone goes through this when they're either

00:45:21.114 --> 00:45:23.994
starting out or just through the entirety of your jiu-jitsu career,

00:45:24.154 --> 00:45:29.134
there's gonna be times where you feel like you're learning everything and you're getting really good.

00:45:29.214 --> 00:45:31.494
And there's gonna be times where you feel like you're not learning anything

00:45:31.494 --> 00:45:36.234
and you can't nail a single move that you're getting taught in class.

00:45:36.234 --> 00:45:42.774
And like, this is just the ebbs and flows of just learning something, anything, right?

00:45:42.894 --> 00:45:46.234
Like, and especially a sport or a physical,

00:45:46.554 --> 00:45:50.974
like anything physical, especially, Like there's going to be days where you

00:45:50.974 --> 00:45:56.154
just aren't quite, you know, your mind and body just aren't quite clicking and

00:45:56.154 --> 00:45:58.694
like, you're going to feel like you haven't learned anything.

00:45:58.694 --> 00:46:00.294
You're not getting better. Yeah.

00:46:00.737 --> 00:46:06.557
We touched on this in a past episode that like one, everybody else is attending

00:46:06.557 --> 00:46:08.317
these classes and learning stuff.

00:46:08.537 --> 00:46:13.017
So like there is kind of a scaling and it's, it's a curve because you're all

00:46:13.017 --> 00:46:16.737
learning and getting better kind of roughly the same time. And you're all going

00:46:16.737 --> 00:46:18.897
to have your peaks and valleys at different times.

00:46:19.037 --> 00:46:20.617
Like there's gonna be times where

00:46:20.617 --> 00:46:25.717
Timmy is skyrocketing cause he found something that he really took to,

00:46:25.917 --> 00:46:28.737
but like whatever section that you guys

00:46:28.737 --> 00:46:31.637
are on that month or whatever's going on your in the curriculum

00:46:31.637 --> 00:46:34.477
you're not quite it's not quite clicking for

00:46:34.477 --> 00:46:38.057
you maybe it's just not your thing whatever and so like timmy's figuring

00:46:38.057 --> 00:46:40.897
it out and you're not quite it's not quite your

00:46:40.897 --> 00:46:43.857
thing so you're feel like you're plateauing well everyone else you know well

00:46:43.857 --> 00:46:48.097
someone else is getting better and it's easy to get discouraged if you get like

00:46:48.097 --> 00:46:52.297
into like negative self-talk about that and whatever like oh man i i suck i

00:46:52.297 --> 00:46:57.357
can't hit spider guard sweeps maybe spider guards it's not your thing yet or

00:46:57.357 --> 00:46:59.437
it's not going to be your thing. That's fine, dude.

00:47:00.417 --> 00:47:06.037
Don't get discouraged. Keep showing up. Keep doing jujitsu because you'll find something that's good.

00:47:06.157 --> 00:47:09.357
That's your thing. And then you're going to be doing that better than everybody else too.

00:47:09.617 --> 00:47:14.097
So, um, you know, that's, that's a little tip for sticking with it,

00:47:14.257 --> 00:47:16.257
but listen to your body too, if you're new.

00:47:16.677 --> 00:47:20.417
And, um, if you've like been a competitive athlete in the past,

00:47:21.257 --> 00:47:24.577
it's might not be as much of an issue for you, but if you haven't been,

00:47:24.957 --> 00:47:28.017
depending on how separated from it you are i guess well it's

00:47:28.017 --> 00:47:30.437
just like if you're not dialed into your body right if you don't know like when

00:47:30.437 --> 00:47:33.757
you're really sore versus when like you might have partially injured something

00:47:33.757 --> 00:47:38.697
like you don't understand that um try to like listen to your body and then like

00:47:38.697 --> 00:47:41.517
ask your coaches actually might be a good time to ask your peers again like

00:47:41.517 --> 00:47:45.697
if you're like a new dude maybe he's out of shape and this is your way to get

00:47:45.697 --> 00:47:47.937
back in shape and like that's awesome do that but like,

00:47:49.034 --> 00:47:53.794
I've seen new people get so fired up about training. I think I've probably talked

00:47:53.794 --> 00:47:56.114
about this on the show before, but anyways, their dudes got so fired up,

00:47:56.254 --> 00:47:59.034
and they did get really, they probably over-trained and just kind of put their

00:47:59.034 --> 00:48:01.294
body into a risky state and got injured,

00:48:01.474 --> 00:48:04.574
and then I've seen people fall off because that first injury came through,

00:48:04.654 --> 00:48:07.034
and they maybe put themselves in a situation where they're just a little bit

00:48:07.034 --> 00:48:08.574
too fired up about training,

00:48:09.494 --> 00:48:14.014
and pushed through things that, or put themselves in situations they shouldn't have been.

00:48:15.574 --> 00:48:18.094
Think about the white belts who are cranking those straight ankle locks when

00:48:18.094 --> 00:48:21.694
they first, like, they're new, and they're like, oh, I just want to get a submission so bad.

00:48:21.814 --> 00:48:24.634
I'm getting murked for, like, the last five months I've been in White Belt and

00:48:24.634 --> 00:48:29.574
this new thing. Like, I think it can work for me. Like, just very preventable situations.

00:48:31.014 --> 00:48:33.794
I've seen that lots of times. So it's like, just, like, pay attention.

00:48:33.914 --> 00:48:35.554
Just not getting injured is so important.

00:48:35.794 --> 00:48:40.194
Because danger's going to come. Like, you'll get banged up, and it's not a big deal.

00:48:40.334 --> 00:48:44.654
And, like, try to keep everyone's attitude managed when that inevitably does happen.

00:48:44.694 --> 00:48:52.014
And then, like, make the injury degree so low that it's a easy to overcome thing when it does happen.

00:48:52.914 --> 00:48:55.894
Because, like I said, I've had guys who like, they fell in love with the jiu-jitsu

00:48:55.894 --> 00:48:57.294
thing. They went like nutty with it.

00:48:57.434 --> 00:49:01.694
And like, they're, went from sedentary to like five or six days a week, which is awesome.

00:49:01.974 --> 00:49:04.554
But also like, you might need to keep an eye on those dudes.

00:49:04.754 --> 00:49:08.334
And if you're doing that, like, just kind of like, just talk to your coaches.

00:49:09.354 --> 00:49:16.034
There's a lot that can go wrong. Sure. When you spike, when you spike your training

00:49:16.034 --> 00:49:17.854
intensity that quickly.

00:49:18.114 --> 00:49:22.274
Or even if you, let's say you are, like you do have a competitive athletic background

00:49:22.274 --> 00:49:26.794
but like if you went from playing any other sport where like people aren't recreationally

00:49:26.794 --> 00:49:29.954
trying to crank your limbs to all of a sudden doing this, like you've just,

00:49:30.760 --> 00:49:34.300
1 million percent increase the likelihood of someone trying to attack your limbs.

00:49:34.460 --> 00:49:38.320
You went from zero limb attacks in your life to, like, daily recreational limb

00:49:38.320 --> 00:49:40.200
attacks for fun, which is cool.

00:49:40.820 --> 00:49:43.280
So it's new to you. So you got to, like, learn how to, like,

00:49:43.360 --> 00:49:45.140
manage these risks. Like, you will learn this.

00:49:45.300 --> 00:49:47.460
Like, jiu-jitsu teaches this. So, like, you don't need to do anything other

00:49:47.460 --> 00:49:49.840
than just show up to class, be very aware.

00:49:50.540 --> 00:49:53.480
But, yeah, just, you know, do your part to, like, try to prevent injuries.

00:49:53.920 --> 00:49:57.680
The more you train, the more likely it's going to happen in some capacity down the road.

00:49:57.740 --> 00:50:00.800
They're not a big deal. You'll get over them. It's like, I'm so casual with

00:50:00.800 --> 00:50:03.220
the injury thing. You'll get hurt. It's fine. It happens.

00:50:03.580 --> 00:50:06.020
I kind of want to say that. It's kind of true, though. It is true.

00:50:06.200 --> 00:50:07.640
Like, you're going to get hurt. It's not going to be a big deal.

00:50:08.060 --> 00:50:10.580
If you're smart about it, you'll always keep the getting hurt in quotes.

00:50:11.060 --> 00:50:15.400
Like I said, you've got to keep it four or five or less. Ideally, the lower the better.

00:50:16.600 --> 00:50:18.980
It's a golf score. Four or five out of ten. It's a golf score.

00:50:19.120 --> 00:50:22.340
You're trying to keep it as low as possible. It is. Because things are going

00:50:22.340 --> 00:50:23.980
to get banged up, man, in like –,

00:50:24.855 --> 00:50:28.175
deal with it well and knowing the difference between injured and hurt and you

00:50:28.175 --> 00:50:32.075
know like there's we've talked about that yeah we've we we here at fires drinking

00:50:32.075 --> 00:50:37.355
coffee are fans of not being injured for too long and too much or figuring out

00:50:37.355 --> 00:50:40.215
how to work around it if you can um.

00:50:41.875 --> 00:50:47.255
That's a disclaimer i guess uh but like yeah i mean that's that's a really good point because like,

00:50:48.595 --> 00:50:52.155
um burnout and like overtraining

00:50:52.155 --> 00:50:55.295
and burnout are two massive parts of

00:50:55.295 --> 00:50:59.095
the like two massive issues within in this sport and

00:50:59.095 --> 00:51:06.315
like big reasons that there's like just people drop out of training and you

00:51:06.315 --> 00:51:09.935
know they they do too they do so much for so long and then like the second they

00:51:09.935 --> 00:51:14.815
get reprieved they're like i could just like not go to jiu-jitsu anymore that's

00:51:14.815 --> 00:51:18.755
what we want to avoid And so we should definitely talk about burnout on a different episode.

00:51:18.755 --> 00:51:24.075
We, we don't have time to get into the, the nitty gritty in the,

00:51:24.075 --> 00:51:25.675
uh, detail that it deserves.

00:51:25.975 --> 00:51:30.135
Um, cause there, there's a lot of use cases involved with that too of like.

00:51:31.095 --> 00:51:35.595
Um, yeah, there's a lot of, there's a lot of things that go wrong when you overtrain

00:51:35.595 --> 00:51:41.235
and like get into that, start edging into that, uh, that burnout phase and you

00:51:41.235 --> 00:51:43.775
just don't want to get there. It's not good for you.

00:51:44.255 --> 00:51:48.075
And it's a conversation for another day. Yeah. And it's a good conversation.

00:51:48.375 --> 00:51:52.755
It's definitely a topic that we should dig into on a different episode.

00:51:52.775 --> 00:51:54.215
But we don't have time to do that on this episode.

00:51:54.815 --> 00:51:56.455
We dig another time. Yeah.

00:51:57.335 --> 00:52:00.855
We'll put the shovel next to where that dig site's going to be.

00:52:00.915 --> 00:52:02.935
There you go. But yeah, like...

00:52:03.870 --> 00:52:07.510
I guess to kind of try to put a little bit of a bow on it, right?

00:52:07.670 --> 00:52:11.430
We've got, you know, two different sides of this.

00:52:11.590 --> 00:52:15.010
You have the guys that are coming in. You have the guys that are already at the gym.

00:52:15.190 --> 00:52:19.730
And there's, we want more training partners.

00:52:20.110 --> 00:52:28.070
We just, as a, your culture and like the way that jujitsu develops, right?

00:52:28.230 --> 00:52:32.450
Like more new people is just good for a training room.

00:52:33.230 --> 00:52:39.090
Outside of just good for business because obviously more people is good for business.

00:52:39.490 --> 00:52:44.670
But as far as like having training partners in a community and like you have

00:52:44.670 --> 00:52:49.950
to keep filling in these, again, just we're never gonna beat these cult allegations, dude.

00:52:50.030 --> 00:52:52.530
You gotta keep filling in the bottom of that pyramid, bro.

00:52:53.110 --> 00:52:58.290
But you know, like more new people is good because more people creates more

00:52:58.290 --> 00:53:02.390
room for development for everybody because now everybody has, um.

00:53:03.210 --> 00:53:06.790
The opportunity to kind of pass knowledge,

00:53:06.970 --> 00:53:12.910
like their knowledge down in some way, shape or form, or like they get to build

00:53:12.910 --> 00:53:16.930
the community because they get to take that, like that big brother experience

00:53:16.930 --> 00:53:20.370
that they had or big sister, whatever it's. Yeah.

00:53:20.870 --> 00:53:25.130
I'm a guy. So I talked from my point of view, you know, you have that guy that

00:53:25.130 --> 00:53:26.030
takes you under your wing.

00:53:26.030 --> 00:53:29.990
And so now you get the opportunity to do that and like that's the kind of thing

00:53:29.990 --> 00:53:34.490
that starts building that community you all start and you have new people they

00:53:34.490 --> 00:53:41.190
get together they kind of get their battle buddy at the gym and like just having that constant like.

00:53:42.193 --> 00:53:45.253
Regrowth is just good so being able

00:53:45.253 --> 00:53:48.893
to build that from the inside is a good

00:53:48.893 --> 00:53:52.213
thing um and as a

00:53:52.213 --> 00:53:56.153
new guy figuring out how to stick with this sport ultimately at the end of the

00:53:56.153 --> 00:54:01.593
day no matter how hard it is getting started you'll be happy that you did it

00:54:01.593 --> 00:54:06.513
because you're gonna have this group of people that you're sharing the struggle

00:54:06.513 --> 00:54:09.333
with you're all getting better and like.

00:54:10.235 --> 00:54:13.475
Battling on the mats you're having a good time you might get into competition

00:54:13.475 --> 00:54:16.195
and even if you're just doing it as a fun thing

00:54:16.195 --> 00:54:19.495
to do like there's all kinds of really great

00:54:19.495 --> 00:54:22.255
experiences that are waiting for you

00:54:22.255 --> 00:54:25.775
if you just stick with it and from the

00:54:25.775 --> 00:54:28.855
other and then for the guys that are already there like you get

00:54:28.855 --> 00:54:32.195
to share you you have this awesome opportunity with

00:54:32.195 --> 00:54:34.915
all these new people to share everything that you've been

00:54:34.915 --> 00:54:38.235
enjoying with jujitsu you don't your wife probably doesn't

00:54:38.235 --> 00:54:41.355
care about your jiu-jitsu you don't get to nerd out about jiu-jitsu

00:54:41.355 --> 00:54:44.235
to her she's like yeah cool whatever what about

00:54:44.235 --> 00:54:47.135
paying bills and all this other important shit

00:54:47.135 --> 00:54:50.435
we have to do so you get these guys that are actually interested in

00:54:50.435 --> 00:54:53.235
this thing that you've become passionate about and

00:54:53.235 --> 00:54:56.795
you get to tell them about it and like be excited

00:54:56.795 --> 00:54:59.975
about this shit to somebody that thinks it's cool because like

00:54:59.975 --> 00:55:03.115
there's a like we've talked about like it's cool it's

00:55:03.115 --> 00:55:06.895
cool but only like the people to think it's cool because it's

00:55:06.895 --> 00:55:09.635
also fucking weird um so you know

00:55:09.635 --> 00:55:12.455
like there's this is an opportunity for both of

00:55:12.455 --> 00:55:15.275
you like one you get this opportunity of

00:55:15.275 --> 00:55:18.195
this new friend or at least well within the hour to

00:55:18.195 --> 00:55:21.355
hour and a half a day that you see them on the mats which

00:55:21.355 --> 00:55:25.195
is more than you probably see other people honestly sure um you

00:55:25.195 --> 00:55:27.895
know like that's there's there's a lot of

00:55:27.895 --> 00:55:31.655
cool opportunities for both of you so um enjoy

00:55:31.655 --> 00:55:35.555
it guys well said so uh

00:55:35.555 --> 00:55:38.515
i was fighters drinking coffee guys that's.

00:55:38.515 --> 00:55:41.295
Right it was that's our uh that's kind of.

00:55:41.295 --> 00:55:44.095
Our two cents it was a little more than two cents it's.

00:55:44.095 --> 00:55:48.595
Like 50 cents how about the new people that was our two we're rubbing quarters

00:55:48.595 --> 00:55:53.755
together is inflation guys we need more than nickels to rub together uh so you

00:55:53.755 --> 00:56:01.055
know help those guys out it'll be good for both of you and as always you gotta

00:56:01.055 --> 00:56:02.335
hit the five-star reviews,

00:56:03.735 --> 00:56:04.855
comment uh,

00:56:05.905 --> 00:56:09.705
Follow that, jumping that discord, actually. So this is like a prequel to something

00:56:09.705 --> 00:56:12.365
that we'll talk about on a future one.

00:56:12.505 --> 00:56:15.765
We had a listener question that we weren't quite ready to broach completely.

00:56:17.385 --> 00:56:22.765
So this is a lead in for that. This is kind of a, it kind of was a hybrid of both questions.

00:56:23.145 --> 00:56:28.205
But this is a, we're building up some stuff here, I guess.

00:56:28.505 --> 00:56:32.145
So we have some more similar things coming down the pipe.

00:56:32.925 --> 00:56:36.105
This year has been kind of interesting with all of that. We've got like some

00:56:36.105 --> 00:56:44.085
cool, we've got like a story arc going between like resolutions and then we

00:56:44.085 --> 00:56:45.645
have some other stuff thrown in the middle there.

00:56:45.785 --> 00:56:50.365
But, you know, we went through like resolutions and urine reviews and then like,

00:56:50.485 --> 00:56:54.225
oh, there's new people at the gym and some other cool like conspiracy.

00:56:54.665 --> 00:56:55.605
We're on a journey together. Yeah.

00:56:56.065 --> 00:56:58.105
We got conspiracy shit in the middle.

00:56:58.625 --> 00:57:00.565
Star Wars. Star Wars.

00:57:01.125 --> 00:57:04.785
Jedis and Siths. you know mikey musamachi's darth

00:57:04.785 --> 00:57:07.965
jar jar binks uh yeah something or

00:57:07.965 --> 00:57:11.425
other all kinds of crazy shit so you know this is

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gonna be a fun year uh-huh it is this is that doesn't

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really fit in with what i was just well it does but it wasn't it'll

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make sense later it wasn't part of my uh we're scheming

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and building shit up guys and there's some cool stuff coming down the

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line as always i tell you that every episode it will happen

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you'll have cool shit it's all cool just like jiu-jitsu um

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yeah guys like follow subscribe we will

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we talked about it on an earlier episode uh

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with tam cool stiff cool stuff will be coming down the line cool stuff coming

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down the pipe we'll have some bonus shit for you guys uh but for that to happen

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like follow subscribe five stars comments uh reviews all of that shit drop in the discord yeah bye,

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