(Ep 24) Balancing Life and Jiu Jitsu

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Welcome to Fighters Drinking Coffee.

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Today, we're going to talk about balancing life and jujitsu.

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This actually comes from a listener question.

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And so we both have slightly different dynamics outside of jujitsu.

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We both have other obligations, but we have different situations.

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So for example, I, Mike, have a, I have a wife, I have two kids.

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For now I have a job.

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But we both have something outside of jujitsu.

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And then we also have jujitsu. And we both have different obligations within jujitsu as well.

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Like the i am

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i'm a coach i'm a competitor and that's

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my obligation jiu-jitsu but you scott you're you're a gym owner you are a coach

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and you're also a competitor so like it's just different we have different ways

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that we approach this um you know and set them up a little bit with your yeah

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situation outside of jiu-jitsu my situation outside of jiu-jitsu is unlike mike

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I don't have a wife. I don't have any kids.

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That's different significantly. However, I own another business.

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Like you said, I have business obligations within jiu-jitsu,

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which I suppose is kind of like a, you could put that as like a header or whatever,

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a label, an all-encompassing label within which athlete and competitor also fall.

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Yeah, right. Well, I know when we, uh, when we've talked about,

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or when we, when we originally initially set up the podcast,

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um, your LLC is described as your child as well.

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So, you know, you have a site, there's, there is an obligation to that.

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That's like, you have to provide shareholder value. Yeah, exactly.

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But, and then, yeah, you're also, we also both have the podcast that we have

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to balance with everything else as well.

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So, I mean, you know, it's a lot of different things that you have,

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that we have going on in our lives, that we have to pay attention to.

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Alongside. Alongside. Quote, unquote, jujitsu. Yeah. The thing that,

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and, you know, you have to decide.

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Every day how you're going to

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fulfill your obligations within each of

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these different sectors so like you know we have to

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figure out like how are we going to we're both constantly you know looking at

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how to build success within the podcast how do we where are the success you

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know we have to look at the successful things and non-successful things like

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that's a that's a thing we have to do most days.

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We have, you know, I have obligations with the kids.

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I'm spending, you know, got to spend time with the wife, got to spend time with their family.

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I also have obligations at the gym with coaching. You know, I have to be there

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most mornings, sometimes twice a day, just depending.

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And so, and you only have 24 hours in a day.

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You got to sleep through some of that. We also have our strength

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and conditioning that we have to complete so like there's there's a

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lot of different balls you

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have to keep in the air um so let's i want to start on you and kind of figure

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out um how do you run both because you have to run you're you're running a successful

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business um in payment processing you're,

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running a gym that's successful you have lots of members you guys have been

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open for eight years yeah i was trying to think when that was what year 2017

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yeah so you've been you know their gym's been open for eight years you've moved

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from one location to another actually from a,

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cheaper part of town to a more expensive part of town too you know so like obviously

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there is a level of success that has to have been maintained to keep that going

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um and so how you know how What are the things that you, and competing,

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you know, you, we kind of on a, every month, every other month,

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you're coaching your competitors as well when they're competing.

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So walk us through it. You know, how do you, how do you do, how do you keep that going? Yeah.

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Okay. So I will address the question.

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One thing I want to say though, that I think we mutually align on this,

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Which is that there's, this is kind of the core of my answer too,

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which is that there's this career path within jujitsu,

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we'll call it that, that road that we both are pursuing together.

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You know, life, uh, not just a lifestyle, but also a career,

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a career means you want to monetize it and make a living off of it in this space.

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And, um, yeah, so you, you did a good job of laying out the,

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the different things that on a weekly basis, I have to spend time on to see the word career, um.

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Building off of that specific word, I think implies also that there

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are goals and there's like a progression that must uh take

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place within that um so

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okay so to answer your question like because i

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framed it that way intentionally which is because um

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i think using the career label and

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i'll start with the with the gym and the business there

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um but i i i find that there's an

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alignment with i'll start with that then i'll

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get to the other things i do i also have a personal life yeah there's also

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a personal there's that but but you know but this is i think this is part of

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the the core of the question is like how do you do these things and like

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how can you also you know how that fits together um i

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guess we should throw that in there the the inherent need as humans to have

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some form of socialization as well that's also pretty important that's also

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part of the balancing correct that's why i right that's the the core of the

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question yeah um yeah i mean talk about it.

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I do believe I have a balance, albeit because of where I'm beginning to take this.

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My balance is, I mean, like that side of the world, the other,

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call it other, personal life, you know, just other things.

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I prioritize the career. No surprise. I prioritize that and I prioritize the

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things that go into that now for what it's worth.

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Once upon a time prior to that the career side of things being a, a, a reality,

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but these, the, the, this is why I like the career choice and me,

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even me saying that I prioritize it is, was, it was a pretty easy decision for

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me to make because what I found before I, you know, monetize,

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I career ties, career ties,

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um, all of this stuff was, I was spending my free time.

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Like my, my, my balance was doing these things anyways,

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coaching, athletics, uh, um, helping, you know, once upon a time,

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like other, other gym owners with like just some of the, their,

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their obligations, you know, coaching and being an athlete helps those things,

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uh, which again is part of this.

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So it's sort of like, if I, if I build out that, that hierarchy of,

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of, um, jobs and the work that goes into it, um, and I'll start just again,

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like I said, I'll start with the.

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The other things that I do support that. So, and, you know, if I'm going to

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give like a practical answer too for folks who are listening to us,

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we just talked to Caleb like 30 minutes ago,

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maybe a little bit more than that, but like today about him going down this path as well.

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Your lens and your focus changes when, you know, having an academy and like

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having employees, having teammates and needing that business,

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needing that entity to grow and be successful, which like, no surprise,

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it's a business that runs on money.

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Um, and there are people who rely upon that. It's not just me.

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You know, there are other folks who, um, need that business to survive and thrive.

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So you, you do, you have to like change the way you look at things and you have

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to, you really, if, if, if I put it first,

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probably I definitely intentionally, but also like maybe unintentionally,

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maybe like a subconsciously, I know without the business being able to grow

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and thrive and continually make money and scale and ascend uh the other things.

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Will i think inherently become weaker as

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well so if that's

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the at the top of the ladder like everything else that i do which i think

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again it falls in line probably in that order too

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like business coaching and then myself as an athlete like i

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i i kind of have to treat it that way um my athletic goal going down i guess

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bottom of the totem hole bottom of the totem pole that helps it helps provide

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a community and a culture for the coaches which also pushes

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the business up so it like the better i do at my competitive athletic career

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in martial arts teaches me how to be a better student and coach which inherently

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allows me to deliver the product,

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of the business in a better, more intentional, more educated way,

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providing, you know, my,

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my, my coaching peers, their employees with, you know, if I'm wearing that label,

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they're my peers, they're also coaches.

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It gives them more perspective, some things they can perhaps gain from too, or I can gain from them.

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And then all of this, like this, these, these benefits, I suppose,

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that I'm, I'm, you know, elaborating on here, benefits the, the, the business as well.

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Like that community, we talked about the community and like what, how, you know,

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like I mentioned in the last podcast that um in

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my opinion those other things again like secondary

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and tertiary to what makes the business grow

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happens organically if for

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all intents and purposes basically what i'm saying is like the my i i prioritize

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i i can do all i believe i can do all these things and be successful in them

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um but the athletic my individual goals they're aligned like individually i

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want to be a good coach and i want to be a good business owner as well so it's

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It's not like I'm sacrificing one for the other, but, um.

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I say this because like when I mentioned careers and metrics and success,

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like I think like money is a pretty good indicator of success.

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Right? Like that's a free market shit. Like it's capitalism.

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Especially from a business standpoint. Well, a hundred percent.

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The more money people are willing to give you, it means that they support the

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product. There's value that they're receiving, right? Yeah.

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And the more people who you can provide that value to, to whatever the price

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point is, yeah, it's just like, it's an indicator because this,

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again, it's a free market.

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They don't have to be here they can leave whenever they want they especially how

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we talked about how many options there are in this

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area like there's a lot of they they don't have

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to travel very far to get to another gym so them you know which isn't the case

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everywhere but them choosing to come here rather than going you know what a

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mile down the road yeah and pick another and go to another place that means

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that they value the product that you're providing like yeah absolutely but you see what i'm

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right like to me because like there's getting a bunch of

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medals and being poor getting a bunch of medals and and

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not having any way to like like this this sport that

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we are in although it's changing there's not

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a lot of places you can go and get paid solely to be an athlete it's beginning

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to happen but well you know you know you have your cjis where guys can make

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like a million dollars now that's that's pretty damn good there's not there's

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like that's one one organization right know that I know of there.

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You can make that type of money.

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And winning isn't the brand anymore.

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Like, or well, you do not need to win to have a, to be a successful person in

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the realm of jujitsu. Right.

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You know, like you need to be able to sell what you've done.

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Um, you need to be able to push your wins and you'd be able to push your losses.

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You need to be able to market everything you're doing in a way that speaks to

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your customer, you know, like you can lose and still provide value from that, right?

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Like if you are good at selling yourself.

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With that, exactly. That's kind of the, yeah, we're on the same page there. Yeah.

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But now that's also because of the position I'm in where I,

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as you said, if I do those things right, I can continue to

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provide value within the business where people are coming in to to learn

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something and you know get to exercise and to learn

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a skill and all that um but you're

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right like but that that that's why i was saying like my my

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my within that world i haven't even gotten to my other parts of my life too

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but within that world those things are properly aligned so yeah it fits pretty

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well and obviously like we go into this we go to tournaments and stuff we're

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going in to win so that's like inherently i want to do that now that said um,

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because of all of the other obligations that compete for time and attention.

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Perhaps being solely a competitor and that being your stated only goal,

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those guys might be more successful in winning those medals,

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but they might not be making more money.

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They might not be. Like, dude, if you're going to do this for the long haul,

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you have to have a strategy like that.

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You'd be like, how am I going to live and also continue to compete and win if

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that's really what fuels you?

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It's part of what fuels me. That's not the only thing that fuels me.

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Obviously plus i wouldn't be doing these other things but but yeah like just

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my statement on like having the business like allows that exercise of extracting

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value from competitive experience.

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Disseminating it to students obviously to my peers to my to

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my business partners to whatever like anyone who can get value from

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my experience it i think it just it fits

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really well but at the same time and kind of maybe i'll bring

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it back to the core of the question like these are all things that like throughout the

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week I have to carve out time to um to

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work on the business's goals and that's like it's a

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business right so like anything else this is you know

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doing work for the business is not sitting around and thinking about my guard

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passing or my submissions it's I mean that's part

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of it right because that's the class experience and me being um

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aware enough to say all right like the

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things that I've learned while being in an IBGF

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tournament or whatever an ADCC tournament um how

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can i take those tactics those

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moves those strategies and like make that into like a cool product that other

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people can benefit from but doing work for

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the business is like managing staff looking at.

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Your pnl sheet studying you

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know money in money out and then having future goals

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planning for that like moving people around creating a business

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culture so yeah it's just my point is that that requires

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work and time in and of itself and like

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training you gotta like train to be good at that too like i i have

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books in here on business i have business mentors and stuff like that i have

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to like go and develop those skills as well that's another thing i have to do yeah i

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have to improve myself at that but you're right yeah but it's time

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that's time you're not like running a jiu-jitsu gym

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isn't just being on the mats 100

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you know i so it's there's time

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outside of that you can't just show up and coach there's

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other things you need to do which I don't think everyone always appreciates like

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I don't think everyone knows that or maybe at the end of this at the end of

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this podcast they will yeah but you're right I don't think that that's something

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that everybody who that people that aren't doing it right they don't because

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they don't see it those aren't the things they see that's the things they're

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reaping the benefits of right.

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Yeah yeah 100 so well anyways

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but this is just within that realm right so but

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but okay so but the point there is that like you have to have so like

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at the end of the day like i think like if if i

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could be maybe a little more like direct for people listening

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like you're gonna have to look at your calendar and really think about

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what you're spending your time on and how you structure your time across

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weeks months what did

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you just do i'm just trying to get my mic closer to my face it's

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pretty close to your face it's close enough now you're good um yeah

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you have to like you have to dial in your schedule man

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and like dude like i'm like everyone else like i have to

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have time to like not do this stuff so i can come back

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to it and do a better job you know like you have to like like training like

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your body has to recover your mind has to recover you have to like mentally

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emotionally recover from things and then go back in and do it again really well

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no i don't do a great job at like taking time away but you know i've learned

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how to do that most people don't

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i I think that's a pretty common thing in the realm of jiu-jitsu too.

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Like I think most guys that are involved in jiu-jitsu in one way or another

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tend to be pretty bad at not being involved for a period of time,

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right? It's a tough thing to walk away from. Yeah.

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And you know, it's like, it's sort of like, I call it like being in the game.

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Like I want to be in the game.

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But also like, I know that when

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I'm not in the game, sometimes when I come back, I do better in the game.

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So it's it is it's the exercise of knowing how to find balance now here's what

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i'll say about another cool thing about what i've what i like about my my career my my life is that i.

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All of this stuff that i i hope i'm not sounding like i'm complaining because

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i i chose to do this and i want to do this and like i said i like being in the

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game but like this quote-unquote game takes me to miami it takes me to las vegas

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it's taken me to italy taking me to spain it's It's taking me, like, I can go out and,

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like, I can work and balance and, like,

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modulate things where it's, like, it's still fun.

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It's, like, there are definitely days where it feels like I'm working.

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I'm fucking, most days it feels like I'm working.

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I don't mind that. But there are times when I'm like, I'm working,

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but it doesn't feel like work.

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Now, by the way, caveat that with my, and so I'll segue slightly over to my

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other, I have another business, that company.

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Definitely. I have to do the same thing, carve out time, plan,

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do all the business stuff. That's, that is work, but it's also fun work.

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Like I, I, people who don't, people who know me and I post this stuff,

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but like that, that I own a payment processing company with,

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with a couple other guys.

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And we primarily work

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with cannabis related businesses which takes

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me to events networking and stuff like in a

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in another community and culture that's also kind

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of fun too like the very dynamic of that is like

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it's it's different people like i like working with like in like interesting spaces

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like jujitsu guys are weirdos we talked about that earlier yeah we might

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do a podcast on that those guys tend to be weirdos too like i'm

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probably the at the i am the core weirdo who

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is trying to find myself i always i call other people weirdos like i'm

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not also the weirdo but like sweet like i like that

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so but my point is like over there like it's work for sure but

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there's a balance in that too where i'm like i just mentioned i go to miami

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do all these i go to cool places where i can take a break while i'm working

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while i'm going for a training camp or a tournament in miami and like get a

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little bit of like sun or whatever i can make that fun i can do that over there

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too well especially if it's like they're they're your kind of weirdos too right Yeah, they're great.

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If those guys are your kind of weirdos, you go and spend time,

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you're in these cool places where

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you can hang out and like do fun things around the work you're doing.

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Like I totally, because I'm, my career outside of jujitsu is brewing.

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Beers, similar type of, I mean, it's a very similar group of guys to the cannabis industry.

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And some of them really enjoy the cannabis industry. That they do.

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So, you know, like you have this group of people that knows how to unwind.

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And so, yeah, you get to do these cool things surrounding work.

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So, I totally get that. So, you know, something like, we didn't get to get into

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this with Caleb because he was in kind of a hurry, could have come up,

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but I like jokingly, and like, look, I like my business partners.

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I like the people I work with in all of my companies.

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They're fun, they're, like, I jokingly say my ethos is like,

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I want to go have fun and get paid to do it.

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Oh, absolutely. You know what I'm saying? And like, that's, that is what I'm trying to do.

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My, in my free time for those listening, I want to race cars.

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I have been going to race cars.

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I've been going to car racing classes and shit.

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That's my next fucking big thing, dude. Like one day I want to own a race car.

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There, I said it. Next business.

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For real. Yeah. One day, I don't know how to do it yet, but like starts with, I'm in the intro class.

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I'm in the intro classes for like racing Porsches and like fucking cool shit.

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Like, dude, it's awesome.

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Yeah. One day I'll figure out how to make money doing that. And like,

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I can't wait for that. But, but okay. But so like I said, like, this is my ethos.

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Caleb was talking about how he's like, let's have fun. Like,

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it's like, I like having fun. I'm like, yeah, I get that. Yeah, I get it.

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Um, but yeah, dude. But at the same time, like, you know, you introduce money

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and like goals and shit like that.

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It can, you know, like I, I, I just, I want to do things that,

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um, have goals around them. I like that shit.

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And then sometimes that can be stressful in that because, you know,

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it takes a thing that's fun and then it adds a like, an intensity to it.

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You're like, no, I have to go do this thing now. Cause I said I was going to do it. I want to do it.

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Um, can you do that and also make it fun for sure? Do I always know how to make it fun? No, I don't.

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Um, but if I take a step back, like anytime I feel like I'm getting like just

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ground to a pulp, which happens, uh, it helps for me to remember that, you know?

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So like, that's why I don't mind being in the game, but all right.

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So like balance, like doing that primo payments which is

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the payments company district martial arts um the.

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Podcast which is fun yeah which is fun right it's

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fun man and like but this is another career path yeah right it's

00:22:00.115 --> 00:22:02.895
it's another thing um but again it's fun it's fueled by.

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Fun like dude this stuff is like we're busy like stuff.

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Comes up yeah maybe there are days when we're just like fried and like dude i don't know if

00:22:08.375 --> 00:22:11.195
i can talk for like four hours dude when we recorded it it seems after

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that workout that he tried to destroy my life with we had

00:22:13.895 --> 00:22:17.275
me do the aerosol bike that shit sucked man but

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i was like i was there and i was like talking i had like a 20 minute

00:22:20.075 --> 00:22:22.895
break before you came over that i was like dude i don't know if i can do this podcast i

00:22:22.895 --> 00:22:26.255
don't know i don't know if i have it i mean i did but you know

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like it's like you just you're again i'm a human being

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uh but then but then again like i said this is

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an easy thing for me to say i'm gonna do it like this is awesome it's fun.

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So i want to do that um but now

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all that said too i realized i might be in a fairly unique position

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because of that and because of what i said earlier i don't

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have a wife and two kids um i can prioritize these

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things um so much my my schedule is

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built around this stuff um and one

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day when there's a wife and kids she'll understand that

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like that's that's what's up now that said um i

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like i mentioned earlier i do have a i have a personal life i but

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i've looked at my like i i have it kind of dialed in like i know

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my nights when i'm available i know my my weekends when i'm available i

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know my weekends when i'm not available because we plan this stuff out i

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have tons of weekends that aren't available because of everything i've

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said yeah any any other thing travel for work but you plan things you want to

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do i can look at the counter and be like yo dude i'm gonna be smoked at the

00:23:23.835 --> 00:23:27.675
end of fill in the blank month yeah i mean heck we were literally doing that

00:23:27.675 --> 00:23:31.655
right before we said yeah start recording this we're looking at like we look

00:23:31.655 --> 00:23:36.035
at what things we have coming up and like all right well we need to knock out.

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Five episodes in the next like three weeks or whatever. Yeah,

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bro. Exactly. So, but, but fuck it, man. Like, cool. Let's do it.

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It's fun. It is. It's fun.

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And I, and I can also look ahead and say, dude, like again, I've,

00:23:48.780 --> 00:23:52.480
I've cultivated like my, I'm like in Arlington and I'm not running around.

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I just, just do my things.

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I've got a pretty good balance going where I'm like, I'm not too smoked.

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Like I'm pushing it to the fucking limit for sure, but I can do these things.

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I'm like, I can get my rest.

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I can get my, my free time to go do things, go on dates, do whatever I want to do.

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Hang out, catch my breath, and then keep going.

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It took a while for me to figure that out, but I can do that.

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By the way, I'm not talking about the like million hours that I'm on the mat

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training, physically difficult training, plus strength and conditioning.

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But that's kind of like maybe a throwback to the first thing that we talked

00:24:24.640 --> 00:24:28.900
about or what I talked about when I was describing gym, coaching,

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and athletics in alignment.

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Like I want an athletic career in my life. So dude, a significant amount of

00:24:34.720 --> 00:24:36.460
my time is built around that.

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Um, it's probably actually without a doubt, it's,

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I, I have cultivated my schedule around when I'm not getting my ass destroyed

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in training and everything else is, is,

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you know, I put it in strategic points, like days and times where I can like

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do that, get the morning workout done,

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eat, hydrate, shower, think for a second, bang, start working on whatever business

00:25:04.380 --> 00:25:07.020
objective that I have, get this thing done, hang out this deliverable.

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Answer to people answer to business partners take a phone call schedule

00:25:09.940 --> 00:25:12.620
some time for a sales meeting whatever okay did all that in

00:25:12.620 --> 00:25:15.400
these blocks oh i have another training session in the evening or afternoon or whatever

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boom go do that come back eat handle more shit emails text this that um go to

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bed i did i prioritize sleep oh yeah by the way you have to uh by the way i

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i i make that like that's that's a big one i can't do all of this shit that

00:25:31.160 --> 00:25:33.540
i'm talking about without like that um,

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So my way of saying like when I'm here, like I've, I've got myself pretty down

00:25:38.065 --> 00:25:41.725
and like I have, I have free time. I have like time to balance my life for sure.

00:25:43.105 --> 00:25:48.185
Now on that, I'm pretty willing to like let some of that free time slip.

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If something comes up for one of the things that I've talked about,

00:25:50.325 --> 00:25:52.125
I'm like, I, that just, that's where I'm at.

00:25:52.245 --> 00:25:56.045
So I'm at in life. I can do that. And I want to, um, alternatively,

00:25:56.225 --> 00:25:58.405
if there's a free time thing, I've booked myself for like, I,

00:25:58.505 --> 00:25:59.825
and I'm like, this is what I'm doing.

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That's what I'm doing too. So I have that discretion to say,

00:26:04.065 --> 00:26:06.925
no, I'm not going to do these things for the next couple of hours.

00:26:07.505 --> 00:26:09.965
I'm talking to this lady or whatever.

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I'm watching a fucking movie. I'm not going to do emails or texts or whatever. I can do that.

00:26:16.845 --> 00:26:22.085
But also, like I said, I give myself that room to decide what's right now with

00:26:22.085 --> 00:26:25.765
what I'm working on, objectives wise, what's the best use of my time?

00:26:26.145 --> 00:26:28.405
And if I feel like I can get something done, I'll fucking do it.

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But if I feel like I can't because I'm like, no, man, I need to like, I need to do it.

00:26:32.185 --> 00:26:38.225
I come back from training most weeknights and the amount of time I have between

00:26:38.225 --> 00:26:41.325
I'm just getting cleaned up and I'm stepping out of the shower.

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Like I consider that like the end of training. Like I'm not like I'm clean now

00:26:45.245 --> 00:26:49.445
eating, stopping for a second and like maybe thrown on a TV show or reading

00:26:49.445 --> 00:26:50.885
a book before I then go to bed.

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It's fucking tiny, but it works for me. I don't give a shit. It's fine.

00:26:56.125 --> 00:26:58.825
But so my point is that there's not a lot. Like I, like I said,

00:26:59.045 --> 00:27:03.125
the, the skill for anyone listening who like is, is relatively similar position,

00:27:03.645 --> 00:27:05.005
look at your calendar, man.

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And like map that shit out and like have a plan. Like there's just not a lot of time to waste.

00:27:09.205 --> 00:27:16.465
When you have to prioritize, prioritize to like what, what free time matters the most to you.

00:27:16.565 --> 00:27:20.145
So you're getting like the best free, you know, like, so let's,

00:27:20.225 --> 00:27:23.365
let's throw that over to you, dad and husband. Yeah.

00:27:23.765 --> 00:27:27.525
Like, I, I mean, I, I, I mean, dude, I'm, I'm happy. I could keep talking.

00:27:27.785 --> 00:27:29.785
I have to think about this shit all the time, but I want to hear your thoughts,

00:27:29.925 --> 00:27:33.225
man. Like you've, you've, you're tossing over you like another, another.

00:27:34.412 --> 00:27:38.712
Significant lifestyle, um, world, worldview. I don't know.

00:27:39.612 --> 00:27:43.212
Archetype, archetype that like, I think a lot of people listening will resonate

00:27:43.212 --> 00:27:45.132
with, man. I'm, I'm a weirdo dude.

00:27:45.272 --> 00:27:48.392
Like my shit is kind of like unique. Maybe some folks out there listening to

00:27:48.392 --> 00:27:49.292
it will resonate with that.

00:27:49.572 --> 00:27:54.532
Uh, I think there's definitely, there's definitely people that fit into that realm as well.

00:27:54.672 --> 00:28:02.212
But like, maybe not all of them are business owners and then also own their gym.

00:28:02.412 --> 00:28:05.132
You know, like not all of them, some of them, but not everybody,

00:28:05.412 --> 00:28:09.472
you know, like it might be a smaller subset, but, um.

00:28:10.252 --> 00:28:16.752
But yeah, I mean, so, you know, I have, as of right now, maybe by the time this

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comes out, might not be 100% accurate.

00:28:19.312 --> 00:28:21.892
Well, no, I'll still, I'll still have a job at the time. CBD.

00:28:22.392 --> 00:28:26.312
Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. I will, I will have just stepped

00:28:26.312 --> 00:28:30.012
down from being the guy in charge of brewery um

00:28:30.012 --> 00:28:33.212
and will have be training my replacement

00:28:33.212 --> 00:28:36.572
so when this releases i will still have a job uh

00:28:36.572 --> 00:28:44.732
but so like for me a big thing in this is kind of what has driven a lot of the

00:28:44.732 --> 00:28:51.692
lifestyle changes that i'm making to set myself up in a position where i am

00:28:51.692 --> 00:28:54.432
able to balance everything I want to balance.

00:28:54.932 --> 00:28:59.052
So I tend to chase things I'm passionate about.

00:28:59.532 --> 00:29:06.532
And a big part of that is I get really into every single thing I do.

00:29:06.552 --> 00:29:11.232
And I only really want to do things that I'm really into because I,

00:29:11.512 --> 00:29:16.832
to a fault, will over commit myself into everything I do.

00:29:17.312 --> 00:29:21.052
And sometimes that's strenuous on other people.

00:29:21.572 --> 00:29:28.412
Sometimes that's gets me into positions where I go through periods of burnout.

00:29:29.072 --> 00:29:32.312
Everyone has periods of burnout. You were just touching on that.

00:29:32.572 --> 00:29:41.472
And so I've reached another kind of tipping point and I've had this happen before, like where you,

00:29:41.992 --> 00:29:48.612
I got into brewing, become very passionate about it, become very about the things

00:29:48.612 --> 00:29:52.592
I'm doing for the reasons I'm doing them, me personally, why I'm doing them.

00:29:54.072 --> 00:29:58.632
And initially, that was a pathway to support.

00:29:59.817 --> 00:30:04.877
The family thing. Right. So like I was full-time jujitsu running,

00:30:05.057 --> 00:30:08.817
running a gym, not owning a gym, just running it, managing the gym.

00:30:08.977 --> 00:30:11.017
Um, I guess it's probably a better way to put it.

00:30:11.337 --> 00:30:15.917
Uh, but managing a gym, competing full-time coach, full-time.

00:30:16.177 --> 00:30:18.037
So like full-time athlete basically.

00:30:18.977 --> 00:30:22.837
Uh, but that's not always the most stable thing.

00:30:23.337 --> 00:30:27.797
And especially at the time that I was doing it, like back 20 teens,

00:30:27.937 --> 00:30:31.857
early 20 teens, the, it was super niche still.

00:30:32.157 --> 00:30:34.417
Like this was not a mainstream thing.

00:30:36.637 --> 00:30:40.657
Any professional jujitsu organization that's popping up was basically failing,

00:30:41.117 --> 00:30:42.857
you know, popping up, failing, popping up, failing.

00:30:43.157 --> 00:30:45.657
Metamorist. Yeah, shout out to Metamorist. That was a fun one.

00:30:45.917 --> 00:30:48.937
But yeah, I've got some painful stories with them. Yeah, no problem.

00:30:49.197 --> 00:30:50.537
This whole, you know, like. Come over it.

00:30:50.877 --> 00:30:54.917
Where jujitsu is now is so vastly different from what it was then.

00:30:54.977 --> 00:30:55.837
And it's not even that long.

00:30:56.757 --> 00:31:02.637
Like that was a pretty, it was a very young sport in the area at the time compared to what it is now.

00:31:03.237 --> 00:31:09.357
Um, and so I needed stability. I get into brewing and I'm all in on brewing

00:31:09.357 --> 00:31:12.377
and I have to make a choice at that time.

00:31:12.397 --> 00:31:15.237
And this is all just kind of background leading to what's going on now.

00:31:15.497 --> 00:31:19.157
And so I had to make a choice. You know, I have, I have to decide on what's

00:31:19.157 --> 00:31:23.517
going to be the best thing for the thing I wanted, you know,

00:31:23.597 --> 00:31:24.817
having a family and all that.

00:31:24.817 --> 00:31:27.557
And so i had to pick the thing that was gonna be the most

00:31:27.557 --> 00:31:30.937
stable set us up the best for the future and

00:31:30.937 --> 00:31:33.637
so get into brewing have so that i can

00:31:33.637 --> 00:31:38.977
support having a family it's still i'm still doing jujitsu at the time but you

00:31:38.977 --> 00:31:43.597
know things kind of change chasing one career path you kind of have to give

00:31:43.597 --> 00:31:47.677
up on it you have to not give up but you have to put one aside everyone's you

00:31:47.677 --> 00:31:51.497
know because you have to prioritize like like you're saying like i need to be

00:31:51.497 --> 00:31:52.577
able to spend time with my wife.

00:31:52.817 --> 00:31:56.657
I need to be able to spend time with, you got to be able to do things outside

00:31:56.657 --> 00:32:00.697
of work. You have to be able to go after people,

00:32:01.320 --> 00:32:07.040
the career goals that you have, which I've now achieved over the past, what, nine, 10 years.

00:32:08.540 --> 00:32:13.360
And so the prioritization was a big thing.

00:32:13.500 --> 00:32:18.800
And so like, obviously, well, maybe not for everybody. Some people don't necessarily do it this way.

00:32:19.340 --> 00:32:24.200
But for me, you know, I'm going to, I had to put family at the top,

00:32:24.220 --> 00:32:28.840
you know, and sometimes making money can get in the way of that.

00:32:28.920 --> 00:32:32.000
You have to do things that but you're doing it for them

00:32:32.000 --> 00:32:35.080
you know i gotta you have to have money to support

00:32:35.080 --> 00:32:37.840
the family exactly you might give up a little bit of time with them because

00:32:37.840 --> 00:32:41.560
you need to make money but then as you're kind of going through those things

00:32:41.560 --> 00:32:49.320
eventually you find the things you might find new passions in life and um for

00:32:49.320 --> 00:32:55.380
me i've you know i found jiu-jitsu again and i think the especially now,

00:32:55.560 --> 00:32:59.720
like the relationship that I have with jujitsu, like it became fun again.

00:33:00.000 --> 00:33:03.580
And that might've part of that might've just been what was kind of going on

00:33:03.580 --> 00:33:08.560
at the time, uh, where the gym was at the time, like where it was,

00:33:09.220 --> 00:33:12.840
how the gym was, you know, the situations at the gym, um.

00:33:13.780 --> 00:33:17.380
A bunch of other factors were involved in kind of taking a step back to like

00:33:17.380 --> 00:33:21.500
not getting the fights you need, like things that were making it less stable at the time.

00:33:22.180 --> 00:33:29.940
Um, but, Ultimately, I find things that I'm super passionate about,

00:33:30.040 --> 00:33:34.060
get super involved in them, and then I have to decide which thing I'm going to pursue.

00:33:34.320 --> 00:33:41.700
Because otherwise, I will run myself so ragged, and then I'm no good to anybody. I'm not...

00:33:42.686 --> 00:33:48.266
I can't do anything to capacity because I'm so spread thin and I burn myself out.

00:33:50.286 --> 00:33:53.006
And that's not fair to any of the other people involved. You know,

00:33:53.006 --> 00:33:55.106
it's not fair to wife, not fair to the kids.

00:33:55.326 --> 00:34:01.646
Like when, if, so for example, right now, a normal day for me is wake up at 4am.

00:34:02.086 --> 00:34:09.266
I go, go train, coach, do my strength and conditioning, work all day, come home.

00:34:09.546 --> 00:34:12.286
And by the time I'm at home, it's like dinner time.

00:34:12.886 --> 00:34:15.106
Spend a little bit of time with the kids and they go to bed.

00:34:15.806 --> 00:34:19.146
I'll work on the podcast and then I go to bed.

00:34:19.306 --> 00:34:23.726
And so like, those are long ass days of pretty much all work,

00:34:23.826 --> 00:34:26.406
right? With the exception of spending time with the family.

00:34:27.346 --> 00:34:35.046
But such a small part of my day is spent doing the thing that I want to be the number one thing,

00:34:35.366 --> 00:34:41.766
which is spending time with the family that it's in the largest portion of my

00:34:41.766 --> 00:34:47.726
a day is spent doing something that ultimately does not,

00:34:47.966 --> 00:34:50.726
with the exception of providing us with fun, like money,

00:34:51.106 --> 00:34:53.786
does not further my goals at all.

00:34:54.086 --> 00:34:57.906
And so I had to make a decision, which was.

00:34:58.886 --> 00:35:04.506
All right, I can keep doing this job that provides money,

00:35:04.506 --> 00:35:09.226
but does not provide fulfillment because it does not move me towards a goal

00:35:09.226 --> 00:35:14.806
or I can give up on, you know, basically I have four things going.

00:35:15.306 --> 00:35:19.126
I really should only have three things going, which things are going to stick

00:35:19.126 --> 00:35:23.106
around. And obviously I'm keeping the family, not getting rid of them.

00:35:23.666 --> 00:35:30.646
Um, and I also like things that are challenging. You know, it's gonna be a lot harder thing to do.

00:35:31.426 --> 00:35:36.086
Chase jujitsu again, jujitsu in the podcast. So that's what I ended up choosing.

00:35:37.114 --> 00:35:40.614
And so, because I know that if I try to do all these things,

00:35:40.874 --> 00:35:44.574
I'll reach a point of burnout and then I'll probably have to get rid of most things.

00:35:44.714 --> 00:35:47.934
Well, I would also add, dude, like high level, like strategically for your life, right?

00:35:48.094 --> 00:35:52.774
You do those challenging things well, it'll give you the flexibility and time

00:35:52.774 --> 00:35:54.894
to do, number one, family.

00:35:55.074 --> 00:35:57.574
Exactly. As much as you want.

00:35:57.974 --> 00:36:03.274
Yeah. So like these things that if I get them, it might suck for a little bit.

00:36:03.434 --> 00:36:05.514
It's going to take some work. It's going to take a lot of work,

00:36:05.554 --> 00:36:07.254
but ultimately- You're working already.

00:36:07.654 --> 00:36:10.554
Like, you work fucking hard. So it's like, okay, work hard on this shit that's

00:36:10.554 --> 00:36:12.654
stealing my life from me, or I can work for these things that,

00:36:12.674 --> 00:36:15.234
like, get me to where I want to go. Exactly. I mean, like.

00:36:15.594 --> 00:36:17.734
You don't have to explain that. Of all the things that I do,

00:36:18.414 --> 00:36:21.594
working hard is what I do the best. Correct. And so, like, I've always worked,

00:36:21.674 --> 00:36:23.334
you know, it's always been a thing that I've done.

00:36:23.554 --> 00:36:25.854
Like, I've always worked hard. I've worked hard jobs.

00:36:26.114 --> 00:36:30.114
Get up at 4 fucking a.m. Get up at 4 a.m. We were just talking about how I used to get up at 2 a.m.

00:36:30.154 --> 00:36:34.274
To go to, to be on crab boat. Go kill some crabs. Yeah. We weren't killing them. We're just kidding.

00:36:37.794 --> 00:36:41.734
I like hard things. On the last episode, we talked about how I worked for an

00:36:41.734 --> 00:36:46.354
inflatable party, whatever, carnival company. Yeah, I was confused by that.

00:36:46.514 --> 00:36:50.274
I was like, is that the inflatable arm guys? No, like the inflatable slides.

00:36:50.334 --> 00:36:53.934
Bouncy houses and shit. Yeah, bounce houses. I was a carny for a couple months. Awesome.

00:36:55.254 --> 00:37:02.134
These are all the hard things that help me reach the goals I want to do. And in this case,

00:37:04.234 --> 00:37:08.054
another hard part about having a family in jiu-jitsu is a lot of the stuff for

00:37:08.054 --> 00:37:15.274
jiu-jitsu is at weird hours when other people aren't working because that's

00:37:15.274 --> 00:37:16.514
when the clientele is available.

00:37:17.234 --> 00:37:20.754
And a lot of things for competitors is on the weekends.

00:37:21.954 --> 00:37:29.994
So if I wanted to chase jiu-jitsu again, that meant having to give up all the hours because.

00:37:30.650 --> 00:37:34.070
When you could be spending time with your kids so what

00:37:34.070 --> 00:37:36.890
is the best way to to solve this if that's what

00:37:36.890 --> 00:37:39.730
i want to do be home when everyone else is

00:37:39.730 --> 00:37:43.330
at work you know um because

00:37:43.330 --> 00:37:46.890
then i still get the time with the family especially

00:37:46.890 --> 00:37:49.710
now my kids are young they're not in school yet they're not like full-time in

00:37:49.710 --> 00:37:53.030
school yet so they're home most

00:37:53.030 --> 00:37:55.850
of the day like i can spend time with them during the

00:37:55.850 --> 00:37:59.570
day and it also allows my

00:37:59.570 --> 00:38:03.650
wife to do things she wants to do without having being

00:38:03.650 --> 00:38:06.790
burdened with kids not the right way to put that but well it

00:38:06.790 --> 00:38:09.570
gives her the flexibility like she doesn't have to have the kids in

00:38:09.570 --> 00:38:12.670
tow to do the things she wants to do like she can she can

00:38:12.670 --> 00:38:15.970
have she can go to the gym she can

00:38:15.970 --> 00:38:20.270
get her workouts in and not have to bring kids with her or she can go grocery

00:38:20.270 --> 00:38:24.670
shopping not have to have the kids with her you know like those are things that

00:38:24.670 --> 00:38:30.790
make her life better too right like if i can wake up because i'm still gonna

00:38:30.790 --> 00:38:32.790
wake up at 4 a.m and go train because that's.

00:38:33.330 --> 00:38:36.850
What i'm what i do like it's what i'm being paid

00:38:36.850 --> 00:38:40.490
to do but like now i can wake up i can go train coach

00:38:40.490 --> 00:38:43.510
at 5 30 come home get the

00:38:43.510 --> 00:38:49.270
kids to school she can go do her thing then i can go do my my strength and conditioning

00:38:49.270 --> 00:38:56.570
pick up my son from school then we can spend time we have plenty of time during

00:38:56.570 --> 00:39:01.970
the day to spend together then I can even still go train or coach at night and.

00:39:02.630 --> 00:39:07.090
Now instead of having spent most of my day away I've now spent most of my day

00:39:07.090 --> 00:39:13.590
with my family and so that sets up a way better balance for me like way better

00:39:13.590 --> 00:39:16.950
life balance to where now I'm getting to do the things I want to do.

00:39:18.020 --> 00:39:22.540
And I'm still getting to train. I'm still getting to coach, which is ultimately

00:39:22.540 --> 00:39:24.680
that's the income portion of it.

00:39:24.780 --> 00:39:29.020
Still getting to compete, which is the brand building portion of it.

00:39:29.260 --> 00:39:33.960
Do the podcast, have time to do this and make it more flexible to where we're

00:39:33.960 --> 00:39:38.200
not having to cram in things on specific days.

00:39:38.360 --> 00:39:40.960
Like we can, with whatever flexibility, we're

00:39:40.960 --> 00:39:44.420
able to schedule ourselves so that we're now able to fit

00:39:44.420 --> 00:39:47.640
this in in ways that isn't as um

00:39:47.640 --> 00:39:50.840
tight tight yeah it's not as stressful you

00:39:50.840 --> 00:39:54.080
can get more and better content yeah we'll be able to you know now we're gonna

00:39:54.080 --> 00:39:58.240
be able to provide more content better content different types of content that

00:39:58.240 --> 00:40:05.340
we've been talking about so um things that will increase the viability of this

00:40:05.340 --> 00:40:10.820
business while also like the career path to jiu-jitsu becomes more viable.

00:40:12.440 --> 00:40:15.980
And it gives me time to grind for things like, you know,

00:40:16.620 --> 00:40:19.640
things that allow me to do jiu-jitsu full-time,

00:40:20.660 --> 00:40:22.860
like picking up a sponsor, right?

00:40:22.980 --> 00:40:25.440
Like things that provide value to them.

00:40:25.620 --> 00:40:30.120
I recently got picked up by Cruise Combat, right?

00:40:30.940 --> 00:40:37.100
And they're having things like that allows me to put time and energy into jiu-jitsu

00:40:37.100 --> 00:40:40.360
into the podcast because I have...

00:40:41.157 --> 00:40:49.437
Avenues of support, you know, them, the gym being able to provide me with ways to make money.

00:40:49.777 --> 00:40:53.637
Like things like that, you know, all these things coming together to help support

00:40:53.637 --> 00:40:57.757
doing the things that might not be profitable yet, right?

00:40:57.917 --> 00:41:01.817
Like competing doesn't, not every competition gives you money.

00:41:01.937 --> 00:41:05.257
You don't get paid to compete. And sometimes they cost money.

00:41:05.557 --> 00:41:08.797
You know, like

00:41:08.797 --> 00:41:11.677
example pans new york city right well long

00:41:11.677 --> 00:41:14.437
island you got to get to you got to get to new york you got

00:41:14.437 --> 00:41:17.497
to stay somewhere the hotel next door to the venue

00:41:17.497 --> 00:41:20.357
that they're having that is it like six hundred

00:41:20.357 --> 00:41:23.437
dollars a night right now pass so fuck that

00:41:23.437 --> 00:41:26.397
yeah you're like it better be uh the four seasons and

00:41:26.397 --> 00:41:30.077
it isn't there is no no it's it's a marriott okay not

00:41:30.077 --> 00:41:32.817
too bad okay but you know not six hundred not six hundred

00:41:32.817 --> 00:41:35.537
dollars a night good i'll sleep in the truck yeah i'll bring

00:41:35.537 --> 00:41:38.537
a tent um you know

00:41:38.537 --> 00:41:41.397
like competing costs money and

00:41:41.397 --> 00:41:44.377
for the most part that's prestige and title and

00:41:44.377 --> 00:41:48.297
those are things that can help facilitate success

00:41:48.297 --> 00:41:51.177
in jiu-jitsu but they don't necessarily there's plenty

00:41:51.177 --> 00:41:54.497
of guys who are successful that don't compete or aren't

00:41:54.497 --> 00:41:57.537
like title holders for any sort of the

00:41:57.537 --> 00:42:00.557
you don't have to win things to be successful

00:42:00.557 --> 00:42:03.577
but it can help and also

00:42:03.577 --> 00:42:06.397
you know it's it's branding like you said yeah it's branding

00:42:06.397 --> 00:42:09.437
right or it can help you prove

00:42:09.437 --> 00:42:12.177
things to yourself and become better because you learn things while

00:42:12.177 --> 00:42:17.177
you're there like you figure out holes in your game that then you find out how

00:42:17.177 --> 00:42:23.597
can i be top level so like there's reasons for it but you're not getting paid

00:42:23.597 --> 00:42:28.937
for it um then there are some that do pay money um like vanguard invitational

00:42:28.937 --> 00:42:30.757
there's a cash prize if you win.

00:42:32.657 --> 00:42:38.037
NGA has you know submission of the night match of the night bonuses like there

00:42:38.037 --> 00:42:40.137
are ways to get money but it's not like,

00:42:41.012 --> 00:42:44.272
substantial if you're not at the top of the of

00:42:44.272 --> 00:42:47.092
the sport right to me even some of those guys at the top of sport

00:42:47.092 --> 00:42:50.072
man like they'll make like maybe 10 g's

00:42:50.072 --> 00:42:53.172
yeah i mean which like i'll i would take it of course

00:42:53.172 --> 00:42:56.452
but 10 g's man i mean that's like especially with

00:42:56.452 --> 00:42:59.652
the amount of two months of expenses yeah yeah it's like that's that

00:42:59.652 --> 00:43:02.532
you have to do that every month so twice a

00:43:02.532 --> 00:43:06.212
month it's like you said like the the

00:43:06.212 --> 00:43:08.852
physical work isn't what you

00:43:08.852 --> 00:43:11.892
get paid for it's how you sell yourself

00:43:11.892 --> 00:43:15.172
it's the things you do around jujitsu

00:43:15.172 --> 00:43:21.312
to monetize jujitsu like owning a business or coaching or private lessons like

00:43:21.312 --> 00:43:25.572
those are the things that make you money and so you gotta have time to do those

00:43:25.572 --> 00:43:30.012
things if you want to well at least for me you know for for us like you have

00:43:30.012 --> 00:43:34.572
to have time for those things to monetize the thing that's fun.

00:43:34.852 --> 00:43:37.852
And so you have to make that thing to keep that thing fun too,

00:43:38.032 --> 00:43:41.052
right? Like we should be enjoying doing jujitsu.

00:43:41.312 --> 00:43:43.932
It's great to be able to do jujitsu.

00:43:44.492 --> 00:43:49.392
And if you can find the way to make money around it,

00:43:49.552 --> 00:43:52.532
even if you're not necessarily making money doing it, you know,

00:43:52.592 --> 00:43:54.652
like obviously I get kind of are,

00:43:54.792 --> 00:43:58.552
but if you can monetize the

00:43:58.552 --> 00:44:01.352
sport so that you can have the time to do it for me

00:44:01.352 --> 00:44:04.152
that's that's the goal

00:44:04.152 --> 00:44:07.352
and so like you know shout out to shout

00:44:07.352 --> 00:44:11.432
out to jason over battlefield for helping me with that you know making it possible

00:44:11.432 --> 00:44:17.012
um coaching me cruise combat huge shout out for them like that dude's taking

00:44:17.012 --> 00:44:24.072
a huge chance on me right like i'm just a guy um shout him man yeah so you know

00:44:24.072 --> 00:44:26.812
shout him loud Ryan over at Cruise Combat, thank you.

00:44:28.152 --> 00:44:32.532
You know, buy their stuff. I'll put links. Buy some Cruise Combat stuff and

00:44:32.532 --> 00:44:33.672
definitely use Mike's link.

00:44:33.752 --> 00:44:36.752
Yeah, definitely use my link. But, you know, so like.

00:44:37.673 --> 00:44:41.633
Finding the way to, you know, I'm essentially trying to create the life I want. Right.

00:44:42.173 --> 00:44:48.773
And I reached a point where I decided that working for someone else in a eight

00:44:48.773 --> 00:44:55.993
hour a day job that wasn't, I had already reached the goal of what I wanted to do in that career.

00:44:56.453 --> 00:45:01.093
And so at that point, it was just a job, right?

00:45:01.273 --> 00:45:04.653
Like it's a weird way to put it, but I'm picking it.

00:45:04.713 --> 00:45:07.853
I know exactly what you mean like i had an

00:45:07.853 --> 00:45:11.053
aspiration yeah an aspiration of what

00:45:11.053 --> 00:45:14.253
i want what i wanted to accomplish in that career i reached

00:45:14.253 --> 00:45:17.093
it and then i kind of

00:45:17.093 --> 00:45:21.913
started like the the reason for doing it started to get muddy and i decided

00:45:21.913 --> 00:45:26.733
there were other things that i wanted to i wanted to put that time towards that

00:45:26.733 --> 00:45:34.713
would be way more fulfilling to me like those that two hours from getting home to my kids going to bed,

00:45:34.893 --> 00:45:39.073
way more fulfilling than the eight hours I spent at work, right?

00:45:39.293 --> 00:45:44.853
Sometimes even longer than eight hours, especially when you're the guy,

00:45:45.033 --> 00:45:51.473
you're running the business, that eight hours plus becomes super muddy because

00:45:51.473 --> 00:45:53.373
sometimes I'm waking up at 4 a.m.

00:45:53.893 --> 00:45:58.413
And I've, for the brewery, I have clients that are in different time zones.

00:45:59.033 --> 00:46:05.933
One of them is in Dubai. Like I'm almost 24 seven, except for when I'm sleeping.

00:46:06.113 --> 00:46:10.533
Right. Like, so it becomes very difficult because I have to do my job all the time.

00:46:11.833 --> 00:46:16.693
So I, I just needed a way to change that because it was stealing,

00:46:17.073 --> 00:46:20.033
not just my time, but it was taking time for my kids.

00:46:20.253 --> 00:46:23.133
It was taking time for my wife and making it difficult for them.

00:46:23.293 --> 00:46:27.493
So like it, it became a pretty tough balance.

00:46:27.613 --> 00:46:30.353
It becomes a pretty tough balancing act. And, you know, like we're talking about

00:46:30.353 --> 00:46:35.353
balance here, like, uh, you gotta, you gotta figure out how to do that.

00:46:35.533 --> 00:46:36.813
And sometimes that's hard.

00:46:37.253 --> 00:46:43.193
Um, we're lucky enough to be in a situation where like, we'll be okay, you know?

00:46:43.613 --> 00:46:51.773
Um, but I guess, you know, that's, it's tough to, to make, to pick those things

00:46:51.773 --> 00:46:56.613
out because it can be, it can be scary to chase a new career.

00:46:56.733 --> 00:47:01.053
And this is not really a new one, but it's the second time going back to it

00:47:01.053 --> 00:47:03.233
and it's the second time chasing a new career.

00:47:03.493 --> 00:47:05.973
You know, like those are tough things to do and it takes sacrifice.

00:47:08.553 --> 00:47:11.493
But luckily, you have people supporting you. Shout out to my wife.

00:47:11.813 --> 00:47:15.253
Shout out to your wife, man. So, you know, like I think.

00:47:16.230 --> 00:47:23.430
I think that a lot of people that have family job doing jujitsu and like a lot

00:47:23.430 --> 00:47:27.170
of them, you know, there's, there's guys who are doing it professionally doing jujitsu.

00:47:27.590 --> 00:47:31.910
And then there's people that are also, um, doing as a hobby and like,

00:47:32.090 --> 00:47:34.650
that's their, you know, that's their social hour, that's their social time.

00:47:34.830 --> 00:47:39.770
And like balancing all those things is tough, especially like with the,

00:47:39.990 --> 00:47:42.090
how addictive jujitsu is, right?

00:47:42.090 --> 00:47:45.270
Like you're getting like that almost

00:47:45.270 --> 00:47:48.610
like the runner's high like there's massive dopamine from

00:47:48.610 --> 00:47:51.570
doing jiu-jitsu like competing in jiu-jitsu

00:47:51.570 --> 00:47:54.830
too like wins and there's there's it's

00:47:54.830 --> 00:47:57.990
very very easy to get

00:47:57.990 --> 00:48:00.970
sucked in and that be the

00:48:00.970 --> 00:48:04.650
thing that you want to do and also

00:48:04.650 --> 00:48:08.410
have other things you need to do because you're you're

00:48:08.410 --> 00:48:11.150
there's other people who you have to revolve your life

00:48:11.150 --> 00:48:14.190
around so um so yeah i mean it's

00:48:14.190 --> 00:48:17.250
it's it's definitely tough because you have

00:48:17.250 --> 00:48:19.930
people that rely on you and similar to how you're

00:48:19.930 --> 00:48:23.490
talking about you have employees right like you can't just gallivant around

00:48:23.490 --> 00:48:27.530
and do jujitsu tournaments all every weekend because you have people that you're

00:48:27.530 --> 00:48:32.950
also beholden to for the companies that you own so like yeah it's a very that

00:48:32.950 --> 00:48:38.530
in a way like the situations are similar because there's people that rely on you.

00:48:39.210 --> 00:48:45.210
Um, so whether it's family and kids or a business and the people that help you

00:48:45.210 --> 00:48:50.210
make that business work, like the balance is important for people outside of yourself, I guess.

00:48:50.570 --> 00:48:53.330
Um, these things I'm figuring, kind of thinking of as we're talking.

00:48:53.710 --> 00:48:57.770
Um, and so you have to balance these things.

00:48:57.930 --> 00:49:03.990
Cause if you just do the things that you want to do then and they don't benefit

00:49:03.990 --> 00:49:08.030
the thing the things that make it possible then yeah you're it can be trouble

00:49:08.030 --> 00:49:13.930
so well you said something earlier that i think connects this.

00:49:15.850 --> 00:49:20.430
Perhaps speaking for myself this is kind of like an overarching narrative behind

00:49:20.430 --> 00:49:25.390
all of it which i guess i'm gonna go for it um i think you have to like i say

00:49:25.390 --> 00:49:27.310
this for us but for anyone listening to.

00:49:27.430 --> 00:49:30.690
It's sort of like, you have to think to yourself, like, what am I, you get one life to live,

00:49:31.723 --> 00:49:36.223
what, this is not an easy thing to do, but what was I put on this earth to do?

00:49:36.823 --> 00:49:38.983
And like, you know, if you're like, you sit silently, you know,

00:49:39.043 --> 00:49:41.803
anyone just, no noise, you can probably answer that question.

00:49:42.243 --> 00:49:43.243
Most people can answer the question.

00:49:43.923 --> 00:49:46.223
Whether they do it or not is another thing, but they can answer the question.

00:49:46.623 --> 00:49:51.663
At least like what they want to do, what they're good at, because that will

00:49:51.663 --> 00:49:53.443
then convey like, what can I get paid to do?

00:49:54.103 --> 00:49:57.663
Like, what am I meant to be doing in my life?

00:49:58.223 --> 00:50:01.103
Where do I provide value to others? and then

00:50:01.103 --> 00:50:03.843
where you can because what i

00:50:03.843 --> 00:50:06.603
said that i connected earlier is like you were saying like you're becoming

00:50:06.603 --> 00:50:09.803
no use to the people around you when you're constantly exhausted and

00:50:09.803 --> 00:50:12.583
kind of just upset pissed or whatever i don't know

00:50:12.583 --> 00:50:15.303
frustrated frustrated yeah you didn't say those words but

00:50:15.303 --> 00:50:18.383
i was picking up what you're putting frustrated exhausted like it's

00:50:18.383 --> 00:50:21.703
not benefiting you and like it's not the

00:50:21.703 --> 00:50:24.463
longer you don't benefit from this the more that then means other people

00:50:24.463 --> 00:50:27.363
around you who rely on you aren't going to benefit from that you need to

00:50:27.363 --> 00:50:30.563
be the best like you need to be in your best possible position to be

00:50:30.563 --> 00:50:34.103
valuable to them and to other people in your life too so that

00:50:34.103 --> 00:50:36.863
to me that's why i'm saying it like this is like what's the right thing

00:50:36.863 --> 00:50:39.963
for you to be doing that's sustainable and motivating and that you want to

00:50:39.963 --> 00:50:42.583
be good at that can and then i

00:50:42.583 --> 00:50:45.503
guess the next thing there is like if we're going to come up with like i don't

00:50:45.503 --> 00:50:48.203
know a mission statement for people it's like

00:50:48.203 --> 00:50:50.963
find that and then get paid as much as possible to do

00:50:50.963 --> 00:50:54.483
it yeah what what is the thing that benefits as many

00:50:54.483 --> 00:50:57.663
people as possible many people around you especially the ones that are

00:50:57.663 --> 00:51:00.963
the most important to you right right so yeah

00:51:00.963 --> 00:51:03.923
i mean if you break it down if you if you

00:51:03.923 --> 00:51:07.423
frame it like that it's like yeah how do i how do

00:51:07.423 --> 00:51:10.003
i become a how am i

00:51:10.003 --> 00:51:13.283
the most valuable to my family and then.

00:51:13.283 --> 00:51:16.003
Be like if i have if i'm able to put

00:51:16.003 --> 00:51:19.043
more time and energy into jiu-jitsu and

00:51:19.043 --> 00:51:22.583
coaching then i'm more valuable to all these guys that show

00:51:22.583 --> 00:51:25.483
up every morning right the guys that show up in the morning for me

00:51:25.483 --> 00:51:28.283
those are your customers yeah your customers need to have that

00:51:28.283 --> 00:51:31.083
value too yeah so like how do i provide them the

00:51:31.083 --> 00:51:34.663
most amount of value by not being in

00:51:34.663 --> 00:51:37.683
a rush or not being burnt out from doing other things

00:51:37.683 --> 00:51:43.403
that have become not a thing i'm really have taken away from the passion like

00:51:43.403 --> 00:51:48.583
it's the same thing with the guys that currently work for me right like i also

00:51:48.583 --> 00:51:52.463
want to be the best boss for them you know i want to be the best i want to be

00:51:52.463 --> 00:51:54.743
able to manage them the best that I can.

00:51:54.903 --> 00:51:57.963
And if I'm not in it, then I'm not the best, you know, if I'm,

00:51:58.063 --> 00:52:01.263
if my heart and mind aren't into it, it takes away from their, it's their time.

00:52:01.423 --> 00:52:04.143
It's not, yeah, it's not, that's not beneficial to them either.

00:52:04.743 --> 00:52:08.063
Um, so yeah, I mean, that's a pretty good way to frame that.

00:52:08.223 --> 00:52:11.203
Like, that's a good, like, let's look at this through a microscope.

00:52:11.463 --> 00:52:16.143
Like what is, how are you the most valuable to the people that matter to you

00:52:16.143 --> 00:52:19.323
and the things that matter to you? Um,

00:52:20.336 --> 00:52:23.356
know and because yeah it can't just be all i want

00:52:23.356 --> 00:52:27.136
to do all these things right like it can't just be that because something's

00:52:27.136 --> 00:52:30.696
gonna have to give eventually um not everything

00:52:30.696 --> 00:52:36.836
but if everything you do is if you're doing mostly things that are monetized

00:52:36.836 --> 00:52:40.396
and don't have that free time like you're talking about and in my case like

00:52:40.396 --> 00:52:45.336
free time is family time right like that's what i want to do in the in those

00:52:45.336 --> 00:52:50.336
if i have time i want to spend time with family and then you also have all these other things to do.

00:52:50.596 --> 00:52:55.876
So, um, so I mean, yeah, it's, it's tough. I mean, balancing the balancing act

00:52:55.876 --> 00:52:57.296
of life in general is tough.

00:52:57.876 --> 00:53:02.796
Um, especially is there's so many things you can do and there's so many things

00:53:02.796 --> 00:53:04.316
that can take you away from those things.

00:53:04.836 --> 00:53:08.756
Uh, that, yeah, I mean, it's, it's a lot,

00:53:09.476 --> 00:53:12.756
it's a lot, but once, you know, if you can answer that question and then,

00:53:12.976 --> 00:53:20.936
well, if you answer that question and you choose to do these things and you can then follow up on it.

00:53:21.076 --> 00:53:24.516
And some people are really good at like figuring out ways to make money. Some people aren't.

00:53:26.160 --> 00:53:28.680
I keep saying, I keep bringing that up money because it's like,

00:53:28.780 --> 00:53:29.660
you have to have it to live.

00:53:29.880 --> 00:53:33.320
Yeah. You just, you have, you just, you have to, like I'm not here to like make

00:53:33.320 --> 00:53:34.660
a case from whether that's good or bad.

00:53:34.800 --> 00:53:37.840
It just is what it is. Well, and you don't have to look into like,

00:53:37.960 --> 00:53:39.820
kind of, you don't have to look at yourself.

00:53:40.040 --> 00:53:43.340
Your value doesn't have to be tied to the money, but your ability to live is tied to the money.

00:53:43.580 --> 00:53:45.880
100%. The amount of money you have doesn't have to matter. No,

00:53:45.920 --> 00:53:51.780
but no, but like it's a practical, it's a practical thing for this type of thought process to say, like,

00:53:52.040 --> 00:53:55.920
cause like you're, if you want to, if you want to continue doing these things

00:53:55.920 --> 00:53:58.660
with that question that I propose for any individual listening,

00:53:58.820 --> 00:54:00.820
it's like, you're going to need to have a sustainable path to,

00:54:00.820 --> 00:54:03.960
to getting access to that money to continue to do it.

00:54:04.600 --> 00:54:08.060
And then as you said, for family, for whatever, like you, you got to like,

00:54:08.340 --> 00:54:10.900
you know, things, this life runs on money here.

00:54:11.180 --> 00:54:15.440
Just, it does. It's in the United States. It does like, you gotta have it.

00:54:15.580 --> 00:54:18.460
So like, if you, if you can answer that question, come up with a way to like,

00:54:18.540 --> 00:54:23.220
you know, if you listen to this and you're like, okay, yeah, I, now I want to do that.

00:54:23.340 --> 00:54:25.620
Like come up with like, a practical next step.

00:54:25.820 --> 00:54:29.540
Like I got to get this much money. I got to like find a way to live just to make ends meet.

00:54:30.580 --> 00:54:33.740
And then from there you can continue to build off of that. All right.

00:54:34.000 --> 00:54:38.780
I've made ends meet. Now I want to like live a little bit more with less stress

00:54:38.780 --> 00:54:41.480
or whatever. I want to like do some things. I want to enhance my life.

00:54:41.620 --> 00:54:44.840
Like you can, like the exercise of doing that first step, the person who can

00:54:44.840 --> 00:54:47.440
do that can then get to the next step and the next step.

00:54:47.520 --> 00:54:52.340
And you always have to be evaluating and developing your skills in that realm as well.

00:54:52.420 --> 00:54:55.740
And then at that point it's just a game of ambition like what do you maybe that

00:54:55.740 --> 00:54:58.220
goes back to the core question like what are you put here to do like how ambitious

00:54:58.220 --> 00:54:59.460
are you what do you want to get done.

00:55:00.580 --> 00:55:03.480
Um at what level at what scale and you keep pushing

00:55:03.480 --> 00:55:07.420
until you find what until you meet your needs yeah in the needs of your family

00:55:07.420 --> 00:55:11.140
or whoever like you said the people relying on you man like it's yeah like that's

00:55:11.140 --> 00:55:15.080
i i but okay to the balancing acts like if you're going to do these things like

00:55:15.080 --> 00:55:19.440
again it just has to be one life to live start with the day start with the week

00:55:19.440 --> 00:55:21.240
and say, what, how am I spending my time?

00:55:22.719 --> 00:55:25.799
Is what I'm spending my time on getting me to this point?

00:55:27.019 --> 00:55:29.659
And that's an exercise you're always going to have to audit too.

00:55:29.959 --> 00:55:33.559
You're going to have to constantly be reassessing that too. I'm doing that right

00:55:33.559 --> 00:55:34.559
now, looking at my schedule.

00:55:35.019 --> 00:55:37.999
I'm always doing that, but I'm definitely doing it right now,

00:55:38.139 --> 00:55:40.599
figuring out what needs to be adjusted for this purpose.

00:55:42.479 --> 00:55:49.819
And then it's kind of like for what we are doing, there's not one clear path on how to do it.

00:55:49.819 --> 00:55:52.859
There are people who have done things like what we're talking about

00:55:52.859 --> 00:55:56.039
well successfully and those are good models

00:55:56.039 --> 00:55:59.119
to study i highly recommend that we kind of talked about some

00:55:59.119 --> 00:56:02.159
of that earlier before we pop before we started recording this

00:56:02.159 --> 00:56:04.979
one like the thing that works for them

00:56:04.979 --> 00:56:08.319
might not be the thing that works for you either like you're like you're

00:56:08.319 --> 00:56:11.399
we're just talking about like some of the branding stuff like

00:56:11.399 --> 00:56:14.239
one guy says do it this way but that

00:56:14.239 --> 00:56:17.199
way didn't work it doesn't work as well for you as it did does

00:56:17.199 --> 00:56:19.959
for them and actually a different model work better for you but

00:56:19.959 --> 00:56:23.399
like at least you have a framework right so it's

00:56:23.399 --> 00:56:27.079
not it's not easy no but but it's just like anything else it's like you just

00:56:27.079 --> 00:56:31.059
like i mean how invested are you in it you're gonna find an answer you keep

00:56:31.059 --> 00:56:36.539
working at it you'll find an answer um and you just have to have you come back

00:56:36.539 --> 00:56:39.999
to the core question and remind yourself why you're doing it you have your why

00:56:39.999 --> 00:56:42.519
you you build your plan around it.

00:56:42.719 --> 00:56:46.299
You assess the plan, see when the plan is working and when it's not working.

00:56:46.399 --> 00:56:50.459
And you have to constantly have that exercise of being honest about that too.

00:56:50.619 --> 00:56:51.939
When are things working and not working?

00:56:52.139 --> 00:56:58.179
Well, and you have to surround yourself with people that want you to be successful as well, right?

00:56:58.359 --> 00:57:03.979
Like big time. It's, it's very easy to want to spend, to have the people around

00:57:03.979 --> 00:57:08.399
you that have you've had around you, but there's also.

00:57:08.679 --> 00:57:11.759
You know, you have different phases in life and Like you can have people,

00:57:11.919 --> 00:57:16.439
there's people that might be around you in one that really aren't worried about

00:57:16.439 --> 00:57:20.319
you being successful in the things you want to be successful in.

00:57:20.459 --> 00:57:24.099
Like you guys are drawn to each other for different reasons or,

00:57:24.099 --> 00:57:27.819
you know, it's just, you happen to, you know, same place, same time, whatever.

00:57:28.059 --> 00:57:32.279
Right. Like there's, so you do have to also surround yourself with the people

00:57:32.279 --> 00:57:35.539
that want to see you succeed in whatever it is you're doing.

00:57:35.679 --> 00:57:37.619
Like that's a big part of it too.

00:57:38.499 --> 00:57:41.919
Yeah. No, a thousand percent. because that can either be a drain on what you're

00:57:41.919 --> 00:57:44.539
doing or it could be an asset in what you're doing.

00:57:44.779 --> 00:57:47.399
Yeah, because, I mean, you could, you know, that free time you have, right?

00:57:47.539 --> 00:57:51.839
You try to, you go to, and you spend time with people that creates things that

00:57:51.839 --> 00:57:55.079
are detracting from your ultimate goal, right, your main goal.

00:57:56.439 --> 00:57:59.659
That's going to start to break that balance down and it becomes hard as well.

00:58:00.719 --> 00:58:01.959
Yeah, no, 100%.

00:58:03.059 --> 00:58:05.479
It's, yeah, I mean, you have to ask yourself a lot of, like, I, I,

00:58:06.608 --> 00:58:09.868
I guess maybe because I've been doing it for a while, I was going to say some

00:58:09.868 --> 00:58:14.568
of these, they are hard questions, but they get easier because you get aligned

00:58:14.568 --> 00:58:17.388
with what we talked about, like your true north as a person.

00:58:18.348 --> 00:58:21.488
And that, what you're describing, it gets a little bit easier.

00:58:21.708 --> 00:58:25.308
It is hard inherently, especially on that one too, where it's like people,

00:58:25.448 --> 00:58:27.008
like the vetting people thing.

00:58:27.228 --> 00:58:30.288
Yeah. I have a buddy who I talked to recently and he's like a similar position to a business owner.

00:58:30.728 --> 00:58:33.848
He told me he like once a month, he audits the circle of people he talks to.

00:58:33.848 --> 00:58:35.588
And he's like, I'll push them out. I'll keep them at arm's length.

00:58:35.668 --> 00:58:38.628
I'll bring these ones in. like he's like he's always doing that uh which

00:58:38.628 --> 00:58:41.848
i think is you know that's a that's a guy who like to this

00:58:41.848 --> 00:58:44.668
like hard question that i'm referring to he's made

00:58:44.668 --> 00:58:47.308
it relatively easy um but yeah it's like

00:58:47.308 --> 00:58:49.928
this stuff i mean if you're not doing this and you're hearing this right now

00:58:49.928 --> 00:58:54.268
like that might sound like it's a really difficult thing to do um and i i realize

00:58:54.268 --> 00:58:58.248
that but if it has to be done it just has to be done well and you know because

00:58:58.248 --> 00:59:02.228
you got one life to live the exact way you don't have time to waste the way

00:59:02.228 --> 00:59:06.108
we're doing it might not be the way that works for you either um but like,

00:59:06.188 --> 00:59:09.408
I mean, I went through that whole audit process probably back in like February

00:59:09.408 --> 00:59:12.948
and March because I was around the time that I started like toying with the

00:59:12.948 --> 00:59:17.408
idea of pulling the trigger on what you're- I think I can just do this again.

00:59:17.588 --> 00:59:20.988
And so like you go through and like, you know, I had those competitions at the

00:59:20.988 --> 00:59:23.508
beginning of the year. I'm like, all right. So like that didn't,

00:59:23.548 --> 00:59:24.868
that didn't work out the way I want.

00:59:24.968 --> 00:59:28.248
Like, what was I doing before? And you like look back at like,

00:59:28.328 --> 00:59:30.808
all right, well, what pieces don't I have?

00:59:30.848 --> 00:59:33.708
What pieces do I, what pieces do I have? What do I need?

00:59:33.888 --> 00:59:37.788
Like, and you go through all these things that like, all right,

00:59:37.868 --> 00:59:40.188
well, what does this person do? What's making them successful?

00:59:40.388 --> 00:59:42.448
And you have to sit there and like compile the list of like,

00:59:42.508 --> 00:59:46.168
all right, here's all the things I need to do. Here's the things I need to get done.

00:59:46.808 --> 00:59:52.048
Um, you know, and it was like, all right, before I was intensive strength and conditioning program.

00:59:52.588 --> 00:59:59.528
Um, I was, you know, hustling for, to try to pick up support systems, sponsors,

01:00:00.028 --> 01:00:03.868
you know, ways to monetize what I'm doing and like, you know,

01:00:03.968 --> 01:00:07.648
putting all these things together and like, you know, making this list of like,

01:00:07.688 --> 01:00:10.928
all right, what, who all do I need? What do I need to do? What do I need to get rid of?

01:00:11.008 --> 01:00:14.948
What do I need to pick up all of these things? And like, it's,

01:00:15.168 --> 01:00:18.828
you, you start to really realize, you start to realize like, you know.

01:00:19.355 --> 01:00:22.415
The almost like the fat around your life

01:00:22.415 --> 01:00:25.175
you know like what you what needs to be trimmed to make your

01:00:25.175 --> 01:00:29.475
life what you want it to be and streamlined and be

01:00:29.475 --> 01:00:32.115
able to do the things you want to spend time with the

01:00:32.115 --> 01:00:35.275
people you want to spend time with and feel fulfilled

01:00:35.275 --> 01:00:37.935
right like because ultimately yeah you get one

01:00:37.935 --> 01:00:41.255
life like you said you get to do this one time and

01:00:41.255 --> 01:00:44.735
uh i was talking with someone who

01:00:44.735 --> 01:00:48.035
uh a student of mine someone who i train um

01:00:48.035 --> 01:00:50.735
in he was like i was

01:00:50.735 --> 01:00:53.795
so obsessed with making getting

01:00:53.795 --> 01:00:57.755
as much money and power and he listens to this show so hopefully he you know

01:00:57.755 --> 01:01:03.615
when you but you know like he was he was saying he was so obsessed with making

01:01:03.615 --> 01:01:07.935
as much money and power you know gathering as much power and like you know climbing

01:01:07.935 --> 01:01:10.875
the ladder whatever getting as much money as possible.

01:01:11.215 --> 01:01:18.435
And then when he could no longer do that, you realize all the things you miss.

01:01:18.515 --> 01:01:21.275
And actually I was on the way here, I was talking with my mom and she was like,

01:01:21.435 --> 01:01:23.835
the best thing she ever did.

01:01:23.975 --> 01:01:28.975
And the moment she realized it was when she quit her job and was.

01:01:29.655 --> 01:01:34.555
Able to, you know, like in the, before, like I was fully in school,

01:01:34.755 --> 01:01:38.675
like, you know, in those younger years and she's like when we're

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just kind of like walking around and like just a little thing

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like picking up a stick and playing with the stick like she's like these are

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things that she would have missed if that wasn't if

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she tried to like chase this other stuff at the time um you

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know it's like those little moments and like the times when you know there's

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stuff you can't get back right so if those are the things that matter to you

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you finding a way to get the keep those things right like it doesn't have to

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be kids stuff it can be anything like there's just you can't get time back so.

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You know gotta figure out how to how to get the time you want yeah and that's

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the balance question it's like what do you have this resource of time,

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And you need to have an answer for it. We can't give you the answer.

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No. I mean, the balance is like you spend your time on what you value.

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You just got to know what you value. Oh, yeah. I mean, exactly.

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Because, I mean, there's, can't take anything with you, right?

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You ain't taking it with you. Yeah. They might figure that out. Yeah. Right.

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So, yeah. I guess we'll wrap on that. So, like, thank you guys for going through.

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I know we got, like, kind of deep on some of that. So.

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Let's go deep. hopefully hopefully you

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guys gather gain something from this you know that that's

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ultimately the goal with this conversation um especially with

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how fresh this is on my mind and you

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know scott as well like we we were kind of sitting here talking about

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what we wanted to go over today and we decided

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the balancing act because yeah jujitsu does kind

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of have a life balance issue inherently in

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it and um you know so we just want

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to give you guys a little bit of our experiences and how we're managing that

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or have been managing that so i hope

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that this you guys find value in this and thank

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